How you see yourself is not necessarily based on the truth but rather through a series of filters activated by life experiences. What might we really look like and who might we really be without the filters?
The healing process is painful, exhausting and time consuming, but, ultimately, the process is uniquely ours whether we wanted it or not.
In an effort to see ourselves differently, we usually have to begin with the lens through which we view ourselves. If that lens is cracked or even completely wrong, then the image that we have come to identify as ours will not be based in reality at all.
I was reading an article today taken from a magazine entitled Critique: A Ransom Fellowship Publication, and I want to share part of the article with you. “Today the notion of God’s judgment tends to prompt discomfort rather than assurance, a reason to disbelieve… Continue Reading “A Rest Stop”
Our lives can be viewed metaphorically as a landscape populated by a thriving city or by ruins. For better or worse, it is up to us to make do with what remains be it clearing away dumped rubbish, repairing old but sound structures, tearing down ruined buildings, or rebuilding boundaries. It is a worthy and necessary endeavor made more meaningful when done in a loving community committed to our success.
Many of our responses to our life experiences and relationships can be described as automatic or knee jerk, but it is possible to change our responses when we are able to discern and internalize alternatives.
While our coping strategies enable us to survive trauma and difficult circumstances, they do not serve us any longer when we are in recovery. They do not, however, lose their power. Sometimes we experience a sense of being “stuck” when we are still “coping” rather than moving forward with a greater sense of freedom.
Denial is an effective coping strategy, but telling the truth about your life and experiences is necessary if a complete recovery is the goal.