Posted on October 20, 2013
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I wasn’t going to write about this, but I thought perhaps I might in an effort to show what continued work looks like. As I’ve said, I decided to go back to therapy to make sure that I was contained. After my mother’s repeated…
Category: abuse in families, mental health, Mothers, Sexual Abuse, therapyTags: containment, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, mindfulness, sexual abuse, The Box, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook, triggers
Posted on October 11, 2013
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As the title of this post might imply, I am now in possession of a workbook. I subscribe to Psychology Today, and September’s issue did a spread on Borderline Personality Disorder called “The Kings and Queens of Chaos”. The article on BPD was okay. It’s…
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Cluster B personality disorders, mental health, relationships, therapyTags: anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, perseveration, personal development, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook
Posted on October 9, 2013
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I spent time with a friend today. The weather is beautiful here right now. Autumnal perfection. It’s easy to sink into contemplation when straddling seasons. It feels a bit like summer but not quite. The bright, red Maple leaves announce the coming fall temperatures….
Category: Christianity, Faith, God, Healing, Jesus, mental health, Moving Forward, Redemption, therapyTags: authenticity in faith, Christianity, Faith, God, healing process, Jesus, man by the pool of Bethesda, reconciliation, Recovery, relational Christianity
Posted on October 8, 2013
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Well, I decided to practice self-care so I met with a therapist. I am inwardly groaning as I write this out because therapy almost feels like a career for me. I should have an honorary PhD in going to therapy. It has taken a…
Category: anxiety, mental health, PTSD, Recovery, therapyTags: anxiety, anxiety in children, coping strategies, EMDR, perseveration, Recovery, The Box, therapy, trauma, triggers
Posted on September 21, 2013
by MJ
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial….
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 16, 2013
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If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”. Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it. Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting. I’m…
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, Mothers, traits in victimsTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, gaslighting, the queen, the Waif, the witch
Posted on September 11, 2013
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,…
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
