This blog has been an evolution, and I would never have dreamed that my life would look as it does presently when I started writing it in 2009 . This About section has been edited many times. Ironically, I am a rather private person when one considers the contents of my blog. I have tried to leave out distinctly personal information in an attempt to shun the narcissism so inherent in our Facebook-Instagram culture.
Alas, when a reader messaged me asking for more, I felt the conflict rise. “Who are you? I’d like to know more about the woman writing these posts!”
Oh no! My privacy nerve began to twitch. My urge to run and hide surged.
Here are a few things…
- I’m Jewish (Origin Stories)
- I grew up in East Texas.
- I’m in medical school (Traditional Chinese Medicine and, yes, it is a 4-year program) in midlife which makes me the oldest person in my classes. I get teased about this weekly by my fellow students.
- I’m a gluten-free vegetarian which means that most people think I only eat this:
- I once fell through a manhole in Moscow. The locals thought it was hilarious.
- I miss the ocean.
- I love traveling.
- I wish I had more time to read for pleasure.
- I hate doing laundry. HATE.
- I drink coffee like water.
- I almost became a professional chef.
- I don’t eat butter anymore which is good because I love it far too much. If I could, I would do this:
- I have four daughters. You can read all about us here: Empowered Grace
All that being said, what is this blog about then? What’s my purpose?
I want anyone who reads what I’ve written and observed the evolution herein to see firsthand that:
- It is possible to overcome that which should be an impossibility.
- It is possible to create something solid and worthwhile from next to nothing.
- It is possible to rise from the clichéd ashes transformed and better.
It is painful. It might take you to the edge of yourself, but it is possible. That is why I write. That is why I am honest. That is why I will write about my experiences with domestic violence, human trafficking, and childhood trauma and abuse. These experiences kill people. These experiences leave people in anguish and despair, but they don’t have to be permanent ontological states. Yes, you will have to work harder than other people to attain some semblance of happiness and wholeness, and that’s the inherent injustice in being abused and hurt. You are behind the eight ball in many ways, but that only gives you compassion because this state is inherent in the human condition. Your familiarity with suffering and pain can either destroy you or give you an edge. It is, in the end, your choice even if you didn’t choose to be given such a choice. It is still your choice to make.
Nelson Mandela said, “Even if you have a terminal disease, you don’t have to sit down and mope. Enjoy life and challenge the illness that you have.” He also said, “There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires.” This is absolutely true, but I have learned that you get to where you want to go a lot faster when you go together. When you share your journey with others. I hope that I can add to your journey in some way.
In the end, I’ll always say the same thing:
Life is hard, and, to quote the Dread Pirate Roberts of William Goldman’s classic tale The Princess Bride, anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something. It’s evidence that every one of us has a battle to fight even if we look fine on the outside. We all carry injuries and scars. We all have stories to tell. Battles won. Battles lost. Not a one of us has it all together. Just because you look well enough doesn’t mean that you are. Never judge anyone particularly based upon their affect, appearance, or seemingly successful circumstances.
Healing, however, is possible. A good life is available to you with one caveat. You must fight for it. Nothing good comes to you without a fight.
So, be tenacious. Fight for the life you want. And never give up.
Shalom to you, MJ