Posted on November 4, 2013
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It is not my intent to offend people by writing my observations. I’m not trying to be provocative. I am, however, going to point out a dynamic that has been swirling about church culture for as long as I’ve been privy to it. It’s… Continue Reading “The Borderline Church”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Evangelical church, Faith, God, Personality Disorders, TruthTags: Borderline church, Borderline Personality Disorder, Faith, God, performance-based Christianity, spiritual abuse
Posted on October 30, 2013
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I have got to get this off my chest. At this point, I don’t care if every person who reads this blog never reads it again. There comes a point when one can’t be silent anymore. I came across an article today while doing… Continue Reading “The Cult of The Virgin”
Category: Christianity, Evangelical church, God, Jesus, Judaism, love, sexTags: American Christian culture and sexuality, Christianity, emotional fornication, emotional purity, evangelicalism, God, Jesus, performance-based Christianity, sex, the cult of the virgin
Posted on October 24, 2013
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As much as I find therapy helpful, I process my life differently most of the time. I always have. Sometimes I want to describe myself as a theist. It’s easier because the term “Christian” or Jewish means different things to different people. To some… Continue Reading “Making Choices”
Category: Christianity, Evangelical church, God, mental health, prayer, therapyTags: choosing vs. repenting, Christianity, cognitive distortions, God, magical thinking, personal God, personal responsibility, secular humanism
Posted on September 30, 2013
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An aptly named post, I think, as it’s beginning to feel like a soap opera over here. I just need a guy named Dirk to move in next door, and my neighbors across the street to start throwing down outside. But, hey, we did… Continue Reading “The God Card”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Evangelical church, forgiveness, God, Healing, Jesus, MothersTags: accountability in relationships, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, forgiveness vs. reconciliation, manipulation in relationships, performance-based Christianity, relational Christianity, spiritual abuse, the God card
Posted on July 10, 2013
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I’ve been thinking about sex. I have a lot of questions about sex. I’ll explain. The cause du jour right now in both sacred and secular circles is human trafficking. Celebrities from both spheres are jumping on the sexual slavery bandwagon, waving “Stop Slavery”… Continue Reading “The Second Emancipation Proclamation”
Category: Christianity, Evangelical church, Healing, human trafficking, PTSD, sex, sex trade, Sexual AbuseTags: American Christian culture and sexuality, human trafficking, human trafficking and PTSD, judgment in the church, sex, sexual abuse, sexual healing after sexual abuse, sexual slavery, the church and unwillingness to discuss sexuality, the church experience
Posted on May 21, 2013
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I had a discussion last night with a friend wherein she recounted a discussion she had with someone in her church. Her conversation was almost identical to myriad conversations I’ve had with well-meaning Christians throughout the years of my journey. One such conversation went… Continue Reading “What Does Love Look Like?”
Category: Christianity, Evangelical church, Faith, forgiveness, God, Healing, Jesus, love, Sexual Abuse, TruthTags: abuse, Christianity, cutting off a parent, denial vs. truth, evangelialism, Faith, forgiveness, God, Jesus, love, re-victimizing victims, sexual abuse
Posted on December 18, 2012
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I think I’ve blogged myself into a corner. Do you ever feel like you have to censor yourself, or that you can’t present a part of yourself as you truly are? That’s how I’m feeling, and I’m not quite sure how to go about… Continue Reading “Playing Church”
Category: Christianity, Evangelical church, Faith, God, JesusTags: Christianity, evangelicalism, God, Jesus, judgment in the church, redemption, Ted Haggard, the church experience