Tag: Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted on April 20, 2021
by MJ
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My relationship with my mother is complicated. It feels like a living thing quite separate from me. A complex, dangerous, unpredictable, delicate and yet tenacious living thing that persists. I’ve written a lot about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and my mother in this space… Continue Reading “My Borderline mother: two years later”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, compassion, encouragement, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, personal development, trauma, UncategorizedTags: 5 stages of Grief, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, Mother Wound, mothers and daughters, recovering from abuse, trauma recovery
Posted on April 7, 2018
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Today is a momentous day. I see my mother at noon today for the first time in almost ten years. At least I think it’s ten years. I have some long-time readers who will know that this is a big deal. I have many… Continue Reading “Becoming Strong”
Category: abuse in families, assertiveness, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, Mothers, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, therapy, traumaTags: assertiveness, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, emotional exploitation, resiliency, therapeutic process
Posted on February 17, 2018
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To bring you up to speed, one of the reasons I started this blog ages ago was to process having a relationship with my mother. My mother has borderline personality disorder (BPD), but she also has other co-morbid disorders. When I was growing up,… Continue Reading “Choosing the Healing Path”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, Healing, Mothers, Personality Disorders, Rage, Sadistic Personality Disorder, suffering, therapy, TruthTags: abuse in families, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, enabling abuse, healing process, sadistic personality disorder
Posted on September 23, 2017
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One of the broader topics on this blog is mental health and how mental health is defined and experienced in different contexts. The DSM-V has divided and sub-divided the human experience into so many diagnoses that I imagine that every human could find an… Continue Reading “Rebooting for the New Year”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, encouragement, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, personal development, Personality Disorders, relationshipsTags: 10Q, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, divorce, divorce and judgment, personal development, self-actualization
Posted on November 4, 2016
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If you’ve read my blog in any detail, then you know by now that I have a mother who expresses her emotions and general psychology through a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. If I were to follow Christine Lawson’s archetypes, then I would classify… Continue Reading “My Borderline Mother”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Moving Forward, trauma, TruthTags: borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, family dysfunctions during the holiday season, Recovery, telling the truth, the queen, the witch persona
Posted on August 3, 2016
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I wrote this post, The Male Borderline Waif, a year ago, and it gets a lot of daily traffic. For as much research that’s been accomplished over the decades around borderline personality disorder (BPD), there are still few answers to be had particularly for… Continue Reading “Borderline Personality Disorder and Mirroring”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, divorce, emotional abuse, men with borderline personality disorder, mental health, Personality Disorders, therapyTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, disturbed identity, divorcing a male borderline, fear of abandonment and mirroring, male borderline, mirroring behaviors in personality disorders
Posted on May 8, 2016
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I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis. There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric… Continue Reading “The Borderline Blame Storm”
Category: abuse in families, blame, Borderline Personality Disorder, cluster c personality disorders, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, relationships, self-advocacyTags: abuse, accountability in relationships, blame, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, narcissistic injury, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, narcissistic supply, personality disordered parents, theory of mind deficits
Posted on December 24, 2015
by MJ
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I am still in therapy. It’s no longer something I remotely enjoy not that I ever enjoyed sitting in the Hot Seat before. Now, however, it’s work, and I can feel it. I can feel myself becoming defensive when my therapist asks a question… Continue Reading “Opening The Vaults”
Category: abuse in families, encouragement, Mothers, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, self-advocacy, therapy, TruthTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, crazymaking behaviors, denial vs. truth, dysfunctional relationships, fear of judgment, gaslighting, importance of therapy, telling the truth, validating environment
Posted on August 14, 2015
by MJ
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I’ve written a lot on borderline personality disorder (BPD) on this blog largely because my mother has the disorder. It is not something I wish to vilify, and I don’t want to verbally mistreat people who have been diagnosed with it either. Of all… Continue Reading “The Male Borderline Waif”
Posted on March 23, 2015
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A friend commented on my prolific blog writing lately. I write more when I’m processing something. I have another blog. Were I dealing with an exacerbation in symptoms in one of my daughters I would be posting there. Some of the content here could… Continue Reading “Cognitive Empathy”
Category: anxiety, disorders, mental health, relationships, therapyTags: anxiety and the brain, anxiety disorders, Borderline Personality Disorder, cognitive empathy, emotional empathy, narcissism, narcissistic supply, personality disorders, theory of mind, therapy