Tag: adult children of borderline parents
Posted on March 25, 2014
by MJ
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This isn’t an equipping post or an inspirational post. It’s just me, remembering something. Most of the time I simply sweep the past behind me because most of it has been so thoroughly examined and consecrated that it no longer has a sting. But… Continue Reading “A Star Is Born”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, encouragement, forgiveness, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, Personality DisordersTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing of memories, the narrative approach
Posted on January 26, 2014
by MJ
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I have never contacted an author for any reason. Never because I’ve liked their material. Never to complain. Never because I was fan-girling over their latest novel or having a fit over how they wrote a character out of a storyline. I am… Continue Reading “Breaking The Mold”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Faith, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Recovery, Sexual Abuse, TruthTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, God, persona vs. identity, self-actualization, self-loathing, therapy, truth
Posted on November 12, 2013
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I was at my therapist yesterday for another session. We did not do EMDR. Instead we spoke more about the protective emotions. Just like on Sesame Street, the word of the day was DISGUST. What does disgust look like in the world to me?… Continue Reading “Logical Fallacies”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, encouragement, Evangelical church, God, Healing, mental health, therapy, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, denial, God, importance of therapy, logical fallacies, sexual abuse, sexuality, truth
Posted on September 30, 2013
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An aptly named post, I think, as it’s beginning to feel like a soap opera over here. I just need a guy named Dirk to move in next door, and my neighbors across the street to start throwing down outside. But, hey, we did… Continue Reading “The God Card”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Evangelical church, forgiveness, God, Healing, Jesus, MothersTags: accountability in relationships, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, forgiveness vs. reconciliation, manipulation in relationships, performance-based Christianity, relational Christianity, spiritual abuse, the God card
Posted on September 21, 2013
by MJ
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 16, 2013
by MJ
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If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”. Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it. Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting. I’m… Continue Reading “How To Recognize A Mindf*ck”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, Mothers, traits in victimsTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, gaslighting, the queen, the Waif, the witch
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
Posted on September 10, 2013
by MJ
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I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother. I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this. I read 200 pages in three hours. I feel raw after reading it, and the only… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Mothers, relationships, therapy, UncategorizedTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, importance of therapy, Messiah Complex, splitting, the all-good child of the borderline mother
Posted on July 27, 2013
by MJ
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After my last post, I wanted to pause and discuss the idea of a safe person and what that means using Drs. Cloud and Townsend’s book Safe People. On their website, Cloud and Townsend ask the question: What are safe people? This is a… Continue Reading “Safe People”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Healing, Jesus, Recovery, relationships, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Drs. Cloud and Townsend, healing from past abuse, Jesus as template for safe person, safe people, safe relationships
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