Tag: adult children of borderline parents

A Star Is Born

This isn’t an equipping post or an inspirational post.  It’s just me, remembering something.  Most of the time I simply sweep the past behind me because most of it has been so thoroughly examined and consecrated that it no longer has a sting.  But… Continue Reading “A Star Is Born”

Breaking The Mold

  I have never contacted an author for any reason.  Never because I’ve liked their material.  Never to complain.  Never because I was fan-girling over their latest novel or having a fit over how they wrote a character out of a storyline.  I am… Continue Reading “Breaking The Mold”

Logical Fallacies

I was at my therapist yesterday for another session.  We did not do EMDR.  Instead we spoke more about the protective emotions.  Just like on Sesame Street, the word of the day was DISGUST.  What does disgust look like in the world to me?… Continue Reading “Logical Fallacies”

The God Card

An aptly named post, I think, as it’s beginning to feel like a soap opera over here.  I just need a guy named Dirk to move in next door, and my neighbors across the street to start throwing down outside.  But, hey, we did… Continue Reading “The God Card”

speak.

I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked.  Marriages are in turmoil.  People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless.  I’ve been in that situation.  Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”

How To Recognize A Mindf*ck

If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”.  Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it.  Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting.  I’m… Continue Reading “How To Recognize A Mindf*ck”

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child

As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child.  Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write.  I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child

I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother.  I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this.  I read 200 pages in three hours.  I feel raw after reading it, and the only… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child”

Safe People

After my last post, I wanted to pause and discuss the idea of a safe person and what that means using Drs. Cloud and Townsend’s book Safe People.  On their website, Cloud and Townsend ask the question: What are safe people? This is a… Continue Reading “Safe People”