Tag: abuse

Entitlement and Domestic Abuse

I am going to record this for a very specific reason. Sometimes people give something away in the moment, and that’s the moment that things crystalize.  That’s the insight that you needed to confirm your hypothesis.  That’s when you know that you were right….

The Borderline Blame Storm

I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis.  There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric…

Categorizing Behaviors

I had my third therapy session yesterday.  My therapist decided to make a client-centered approach part of my treatment plan.  I bristled at that.  I’ve never progressed in a client-centered therapeutic environment.  What? Just sit there and talk about what’s bothering me? I could…

Abandoning the Self

I live in Minnesota.  I overheard someone say once that we work for our seasons.  That’s an oddly funny thing to say, but, if you live here, then you’ll understand the meaning in that sentiment. As a seasonal change approaches, the current weather patterns…

PTSD and DESNOS

Recovery is something I have talked about on this blog.  A lot.  If we have experienced an iota of abuse or trauma in our lives, then we will have to commit to the process of healing and recovery.  That’s life.  That’s how we clean…

A Blessing

I want to pause the DBT button for a moment and talk about something ontologically significant–our right to be here. Let me explain. Many people who follow this blog have experienced abuse.  Someone from war-torn Africa once commented.  Abuse doesn’t have to be overt…

Dealing with Dissociation

  I want to talk for a moment about dissociation.  There will come a moment in almost all our lives when we will check out.  A part of us will go away in order to cope with pain.  The human brain is very complex,…