Tag: Christianity
Posted on October 1, 2016
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I’ve written here in the past about my family–my mother’s family in specific. I have avoided spending time with them for years due, in large part, to how I feel when I leave their company. A certain feeling of social exclusion and judgment permeate… Continue Reading “A Christian, A Jew, and a Muslim Have Lunch”
Posted on March 12, 2015
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In the middle of my intense therapy beginnings and increasing awareness that all on the home front is not as it should be and perhaps never was, there is another world opening up to me. I am studying with a rabbi. This has provided… Continue Reading “Understanding Judaism and Christianity”
Posted on January 11, 2015
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What’s it like to read the same story over and over again and know the ending? Children seem to love this. My daughters each had a favorite story that they insisted I read them repeatedly. Each time I read it they were wide-eyed with… Continue Reading “Three Days”
Category: Christianity, encouragement, Faith, God, Healing, Jesus, Moving Forward, RedemptionTags: Christianity, Faith, feeling abandoned, God, grief, healing process, journeying with God, personal God, restoration
Posted on January 10, 2015
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I have learned something about getting on with life. There’s no easy way to do it, and there’s no good time to do it. What’s more, there is absolutely no pain-free way to do it either. Hollywood has played a bigger role in our… Continue Reading “Magical Thinking”
Category: abuse in families, Christianity, encouragement, Faith, God, Healing, Moving Forward, relationshipsTags: "happy ever after" mentality, Christianity, encouragement, God, healing process, judgment in the church, magical thinking, personal responsiblity, religion, suffering
Posted on December 22, 2014
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We are right in the middle of the holiday season. Hanukkah is here. Christmas Eve is the day after tomorrow. Kwanzaa begins on Friday. These are holidays that involve gathering with communities and families. Because of that, the holiday season can be a much… Continue Reading “The Three Kinds of Forgiveness”
Category: Christianity, encouragement, Faith, forgiveness, God, Healing, Judaism, relationshipsTags: Christianity, encouragement, forgiveness, God, healing process, Judaism, judgment in the church, reconciliation
Posted on September 13, 2014
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Somewhere in the annals of this blog I’m sure I’ve posted on the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. I feel quite certain that most people who know me have heard me yammer on about that, and yet a plethora of Christians and even non-Christians… Continue Reading “A Plea”
Category: abuse in families, Christianity, emotional abuse, Evangelical church, forgiveness, God, Jesus, relationshipsTags: abuse in families, Christianity, encouragement, forgiveness, forgiveness vs. reconciliation, God, judgment in the church, reconciliation, sexual abuse, trauma
Posted on September 12, 2014
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What I have wanted to discuss is the idea of feeling abandoned by God. I have certainly felt this way. For many people of faith, when something goes wrong in their lives, the first response is, “Why? Why did God let this happen?… Continue Reading “Clicker Training and Formula Faith”
Category: Christianity, dog training, encouragement, Evangelical church, Faith, God, Jesus, loveTags: Christianity, Faith, feeling abandoned by God, formula faith, God, Jesus, judgment in the church, performance-based Christianity, personal God, relational Christianity
Posted on July 21, 2014
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I want to pause the DBT button for a moment and talk about something ontologically significant–our right to be here. Let me explain. Many people who follow this blog have experienced abuse. Someone from war-torn Africa once commented. Abuse doesn’t have to be overt… Continue Reading “A Blessing”
Category: abuse in families, Christianity, emotional abuse, encouragement, Faith, GodTags: Abraham and Sarah and Ishmael, abuse, Blessing Your Soul, blessings, Christianity, encouragement, God, healing process, ontological rights, ontological significance, triggers
Posted on February 4, 2014
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This post isn’t a follow-up to my last post. It’s a question really. What would happen if you were hanging out at a café with a friend during the fall, enjoying some tea and a scone and good conversation, when a stranger approaches you.… Continue Reading “What Is The Kingdom of God?”
Category: Christianity, Evangelical church, God, JesusTags: Christianity, evangelicalism, God, homosexuality in the Church, Jesus, kingdom of God, Old Testament vs. New Testament, personal God, relational Christianity
Posted on January 26, 2014
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I have never contacted an author for any reason. Never because I’ve liked their material. Never to complain. Never because I was fan-girling over their latest novel or having a fit over how they wrote a character out of a storyline. I am… Continue Reading “Breaking The Mold”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Faith, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Recovery, Sexual Abuse, TruthTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, God, persona vs. identity, self-actualization, self-loathing, therapy, truth