Category: abuse in families

A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing

Recently, I had a conversation with someone in which they asked me about self-loathing and how to overcome it. It seems that this person lived within a polarized self-image either liking themselves at one moment or hating themselves the next; and, this split view-always… Continue Reading “A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing”

Generalized Anxiety vs. PTSD Anxiety

I have devoted a lot of space on this blog to writing about PTSD, C+PTSD, and healing from trauma.  I’ve been honest about my own journey towards wholeness.  What I share here is an attempt to elucidate the emotional experience behind C+PTSD in specific… Continue Reading “Generalized Anxiety vs. PTSD Anxiety”

Becoming Strong

Today is a momentous day.  I see my mother at noon today for the first time in almost ten years.  At least I think it’s ten years. I have some long-time readers who will know that this is a big deal.  I have many… Continue Reading “Becoming Strong”

Choosing the Healing Path

To bring you up to speed, one of the reasons I started this blog ages ago was to process having a relationship with my mother.  My mother has borderline personality disorder (BPD), but she also has other co-morbid disorders.  When I was growing up,… Continue Reading “Choosing the Healing Path”

The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors

I am an independent person by nature.  I was an only child until my mother remarried when I was 11 years-old suddenly making me the youngest of three girls.  My developing personality came to a grinding halt.  I didn’t know my place in my… Continue Reading “The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors”

The Significance of Being Seen

After almost a year of grad school perhaps one might expect to feel like this: Sometimes, however, I swear the doctors are looking at me like this ::cough::Dr. Hong::cough:: I suppose it goes with the territory.  Humility and feeling completely inadequate are better traits… Continue Reading “The Significance of Being Seen”

Profound Trauma and EMDR

I have been writing about EMDR and the process of therapy for a few reasons.  I often tell people that therapy is good.  Go to therapy! But then I’m met with this common response: “Why?” That’s legit.  Why indeed.  Providing documentation of the actual… Continue Reading “Profound Trauma and EMDR”

Deep Programming and Core Beliefs

I have discussed core beliefs on this blog (Core Beliefs and Double Distortions, Gridlock and Core Beliefs, Core Beliefs) .  After my “career” in therapy, I thought I’d covered all the ground until I landed on core beliefs.  I learned that after putting in… Continue Reading “Deep Programming and Core Beliefs”

Core Beliefs and Double Distortions

I paused writing about therapy because I wasn’t sure where to start.  I wish I could have filmed one session.  It was that good.  Alas, I will start where I stopped–core beliefs. Between the breath work and the core beliefs work, recovery is moving… Continue Reading “Core Beliefs and Double Distortions”

Embrace the Process of Healing

“If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”— Hillel the Elder I’m 44 years-old, and I’ve been on the “therapy circuit” since I was 16.  As soon as… Continue Reading “Embrace the Process of Healing”