Category: abuse in families
Posted on April 21, 2020
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Recently, I had a conversation with someone in which they asked me about self-loathing and how to overcome it. It seems that this person lived within a polarized self-image either liking themselves at one moment or hating themselves the next; and, this split view-always… Continue Reading “A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, Healing, personal development, traits in victims, traumaTags: healing from trauma, healing process, Inner Critic, perfectionism, personal development, self-compassion, self-loathing, trauma
Posted on July 14, 2018
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I have devoted a lot of space on this blog to writing about PTSD, C+PTSD, and healing from trauma. I’ve been honest about my own journey towards wholeness. What I share here is an attempt to elucidate the emotional experience behind C+PTSD in specific… Continue Reading “Generalized Anxiety vs. PTSD Anxiety”
Category: abuse in families, anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, PTSD, traits in victims, traumaTags: anxiety related to trauma, Complex PTSD, generalized anxiety, healing from PTSD, hypervigilance, mindfulness and trauma, PTSD, trauma, trauma recovery
Posted on April 7, 2018
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Today is a momentous day. I see my mother at noon today for the first time in almost ten years. At least I think it’s ten years. I have some long-time readers who will know that this is a big deal. I have many… Continue Reading “Becoming Strong”
Category: abuse in families, assertiveness, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, Mothers, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, therapy, traumaTags: assertiveness, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, emotional exploitation, resiliency, therapeutic process
Posted on February 17, 2018
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To bring you up to speed, one of the reasons I started this blog ages ago was to process having a relationship with my mother. My mother has borderline personality disorder (BPD), but she also has other co-morbid disorders. When I was growing up,… Continue Reading “Choosing the Healing Path”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, Healing, Mothers, Personality Disorders, Rage, Sadistic Personality Disorder, suffering, therapy, TruthTags: abuse in families, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, enabling abuse, healing process, sadistic personality disorder
Posted on November 1, 2017
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I am an independent person by nature. I was an only child until my mother remarried when I was 11 years-old suddenly making me the youngest of three girls. My developing personality came to a grinding halt. I didn’t know my place in my… Continue Reading “The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors”
Category: abuse in families, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, Recovery, relationships, therapy, traits in victimsTags: asking for help, conditioning, core beliefs, extreme self-reliance, family of origin abuse, healing process, maladaptive behaviors, maladaptive coping strategies, Recovery, therapy
Posted on October 28, 2017
by MJ
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After almost a year of grad school perhaps one might expect to feel like this: Sometimes, however, I swear the doctors are looking at me like this ::cough::Dr. Hong::cough:: I suppose it goes with the territory. Humility and feeling completely inadequate are better traits… Continue Reading “The Significance of Being Seen”
Category: abuse in families, Healing, personal development, therapyTags: abuse in families, belonging, borderline mothers, Brene Brown, healing process, practicing vulnerability, therapy, trauma
Posted on April 9, 2017
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I have been writing about EMDR and the process of therapy for a few reasons. I often tell people that therapy is good. Go to therapy! But then I’m met with this common response: “Why?” That’s legit. Why indeed. Providing documentation of the actual… Continue Reading “Profound Trauma and EMDR”
Category: abuse in families, encouragement, Healing, mental health, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traumaTags: adaptively processed memories, cognitive distortions, EMDR, healing process, maladaptively processed memories, mindfulness, torture, traumatic memories
Posted on March 19, 2017
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I have discussed core beliefs on this blog (Core Beliefs and Double Distortions, Gridlock and Core Beliefs, Core Beliefs) . After my “career” in therapy, I thought I’d covered all the ground until I landed on core beliefs. I learned that after putting in… Continue Reading “Deep Programming and Core Beliefs”
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, mental health, personal development, PTSD, Redemption, therapy, traumaTags: core beliefs, deep programming, family culture, Recovery, therapeutic process, trauma
Posted on December 23, 2016
by MJ
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I paused writing about therapy because I wasn’t sure where to start. I wish I could have filmed one session. It was that good. Alas, I will start where I stopped–core beliefs. Between the breath work and the core beliefs work, recovery is moving… Continue Reading “Core Beliefs and Double Distortions”
Category: abuse in families, Healing, mental health, personal development, PTSD, shame, therapy, UncategorizedTags: core beliefs, healing process, PTSD, shame, therapy, trauma, traumatic memories
Posted on December 11, 2016
by MJ
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“If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”— Hillel the Elder I’m 44 years-old, and I’ve been on the “therapy circuit” since I was 16. As soon as… Continue Reading “Embrace the Process of Healing”
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, encouragement, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing process, hope, personal development, PTSD, therapy, trauma