Category: Sexual Abuse

The Second Emancipation Proclamation

I’ve been thinking about sex.  I have a lot of questions about sex.  I’ll explain.  The cause du jour right now in both sacred and secular circles is human trafficking.  Celebrities from both spheres are jumping on the sexual slavery bandwagon, waving “Stop Slavery”…

What Does Love Look Like?

I had a discussion last night with a friend wherein she recounted a discussion she had with someone in her church.  Her conversation was almost identical to myriad conversations I’ve had with well-meaning Christians throughout the years of my journey.  One such conversation went…

Under the Sycamore Tree

I’ve reviewed some of my older posts, and I’m surprised.  I’ve written more than I realized about my experiences with human trafficking.  I feel a mix of embarrassment, shame, and disappointment with myself.  Part of me accuses, “Would you at least try to think…

Mighty Men and Parking Spaces

I had an interesting experience today.  I’ll be honest.  It started out as annoying and became interesting later.  To bring you up to speed, I have a very nasty, chest cold.  I also had a migraine at 4:30 AM this morning.  So, taking my…

Truth Hurts

While the truth is necessary for our forward movement it also hurts. For many of us, our relationships with our mothers need the most truth and are also the source of most our pain in life particularly if there is abuse. Applying truth, boundaries, and learning to stand our ground can be especially helpful as we grieve our losses in close family relationships.

Denial and Coping

While our coping strategies enable us to survive trauma and difficult circumstances, they do not serve us any longer when we are in recovery. They do not, however, lose their power. Sometimes we experience a sense of being “stuck” when we are still “coping” rather than moving forward with a greater sense of freedom.

Step One: Tell the Truth

Denial is an effective coping strategy, but telling the truth about your life and experiences is necessary if a complete recovery is the goal.