I returned from my two-week romp through Northern California Monday night with my three hyper-sensitive daughters in tow. My phrasing might make it sound like I have ten daughters seven of whom have little to no requirement of my presence. Well, that’s not true.… Continue Reading “The Great California Shenanigan”
In my last post, I talked about learning to make plans for yourself in the context of possessing a sense of a foreshortened future. This can feel almost impossible if one has poor distress tolerance. Distress tolerance is very important when it comes to… Continue Reading “Learning to Deal”
I decided to practice self-care so I met with a therapist. This is what this new therapist has observed. The “cognitive stuff” is done. I know what is true, and I know how to apply it. That feels like a huge victory. What isn’t… Continue Reading “The Box”
While our coping strategies enable us to survive trauma and difficult circumstances, they do not serve us any longer when we are in recovery. They do not, however, lose their power. Sometimes we experience a sense of being “stuck” when we are still “coping” rather than moving forward with a greater sense of freedom.