Category: Healing
Posted on June 17, 2015
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My good friend, currently reading Brene Brown’s book I Thought It Was Just Me (but it wasn’t), insisted that I refer to her on my blog from here on out as A-Dizzle. Request granted. A-Dizzle never fails to send me outstanding quotes. This morning… Continue Reading “Maladaptive Perfectionism”
Category: abuse in families, anxiety disorders, encouragement, Healing, mental healthTags: adaptive perfectionism, Brene Brown, hypercritical environments, maladaptive perfectionism, perfectionism, self-loathing, the value of failure
Posted on June 4, 2015
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I want to switch gears for a moment. Some time ago I wrote this post–Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage. According to my stats, this is the most widely viewed post on my blog. That is telling. I had never heard of alexithymia… Continue Reading “Alexithymia and the Secret Schizoid”
Category: autism, Healing, marriage, mental health, Personality Disorders, relationshipsTags: alexithymia, autism spectrum disorders and comorbid mental health issues, crazymaking behaviors, schizoid personality disorder, secret schizoid, theory of mind deficits
Posted on April 8, 2015
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Therapy Tuesday has come and gone. It was my longest session yet. Almost a full two hours. I don’t know why he lets them go on for so long. I drank so much water during the session that thoughts of Niagara Falls started rushing… Continue Reading “Therapy Homework: Disgust and Vulnerability”
Category: abuse in families, Healing, marriage, Sexual Abuse, therapyTags: abusive behavior in relationships, anxiety, EMDR, mindfulness, sex in marriage, sexless marriage, sexual abuse, sexual healing after sexual abuse, therapy
Posted on April 5, 2015
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This is the title of a book I just started reading by Lundy Bancroft, a well-known therapist who specializes in working with women in domestic violence and/or abusive relationships. The title didn’t thrill me. It scared me, but the premise intrigued me. How do… Continue Reading “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, Healing, marriage, Moving Forward, relationships, therapy, Women's IssuesTags: abusive behavior in relationships, expectations in relationships, expecting too little in relationships, Lundy Bancroft, minimum requirements for a healthy relationship, qualities of a healthy relationship, Should I Stay or Should I Go
Posted on April 2, 2015
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I had Tuesday Therapy last week as usual but not this week. This week is Spring Break, and I was with my family in a cabin in the woods on the North Shore of Lake Superior. Duh duh duuuuuuuh…(my husband only stayed a day… Continue Reading “Therapy Homework: Anger”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, Healing, marriage, Moving Forward, relationships, therapy, TruthTags: anger, domestic abuse, healing process, telling the truth in relationships, therapy
Posted on March 16, 2015
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I have been asked to write something about healing. Personal healing. How do we heal? I find that interesting seeing as how I’m in the middle of something of a healing crisis. I sat down a few months ago to try to write something. Simply… Continue Reading “The First Step in Healing”
Category: abuse in families, co-dependency, domestic violence, emotional abuse, Faith, Healing, mental health, relationships, therapy, Truth, Women's IssuesTags: abuse in families, boundaries, Christianity and domestic violence statistics, co-dependency, enabling abuse, narrative approach, Truth for healing, victim blaming
Posted on March 10, 2015
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Where does resiliency come from? I don’t know. I’ve read that it comes from a sense of being loved. Early in life, if a child senses that they are loved by at least one person, then they will have some kind of resiliency in… Continue Reading “Prayer and Resiliency”
Category: encouragement, Faith, God, Healing, Moving Forward, prayerTags: encouragement, God, personal God, prayer, Psalms, resiliency
Posted on January 27, 2015
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I want to recommend a book. I also want to be careful in how I go about recommending it. I wrote at least a year ago that I questioned how the Church at large would be able to handle a hypothetical influx of emancipated… Continue Reading “A Sea Change”
Category: Christianity, Community, Evangelical church, God, Healing, human trafficking, Jesus, Judaism, sex, sex trade, Sexual Abuse, Women's IssuesTags: central message of Christianity vs. Christian culture, Christian culture, Christianity and domestic violence statistics, human trafficking, sex, sexual healing after sexual abuse, sexuality and Christian culture
Posted on January 11, 2015
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What’s it like to read the same story over and over again and know the ending? Children seem to love this. My daughters each had a favorite story that they insisted I read them repeatedly. Each time I read it they were wide-eyed with… Continue Reading “Three Days”
Category: Christianity, encouragement, Faith, God, Healing, Jesus, Moving Forward, RedemptionTags: Christianity, Faith, feeling abandoned, God, grief, healing process, journeying with God, personal God, restoration
Posted on January 10, 2015
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I have learned something about getting on with life. There’s no easy way to do it, and there’s no good time to do it. What’s more, there is absolutely no pain-free way to do it either. Hollywood has played a bigger role in our… Continue Reading “Magical Thinking”
Category: abuse in families, Christianity, encouragement, Faith, God, Healing, Moving Forward, relationshipsTags: "happy ever after" mentality, Christianity, encouragement, God, healing process, judgment in the church, magical thinking, personal responsiblity, religion, suffering
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