Tag: encouragement

Living with Intention

I receive many emails asking how to fix a loved one.  It might be a mother with a personality disorder or a partner or family member with alexithymia.  In both cases, I have been that self-same person on the search for solutions.  I have…

Jerry Seinfeld on Pain

It might be springtime where you live, but we just got hit with a doozy of a blizzard that dropped over a foot of snow on us.  And it’s still snowing.  Go home, Mother Nature.  You’re clearly drunk. I thought I would use my…

A Saturday Encouragment

I had such an unusual week.  I’ll begin at the beginning. My youngest daughter is open-enrolled in another school district because our home district is, well, incompetent and infamous for refusing to implement any kind of special education services.  That’s fine if your child…

A Sunday Thought

  “Sometimes where you are is not where you belong.  It’s just what you’re used to.”  

A Sunday Thought

“If I quit now, then I will soon be back to where I started.  And when I started I was desperately hoping to be where I am now.”  Unknown

The Buffer and Rat Park

I went to therapy on Tuesday with a migraine. I have to pause for a moment and talk about migraines, pain, and trauma.  Whenever I have mentioned the nightmare known as The Migraine on any blog, well-meaning people have offered helpful comments.  I certainly want…

The Persona Paradigm

I’ve been editing old posts.  It’s been a much bigger process than I expected what with over 200 posts and six years worth of material.  I came across this post written in 2014, and it dovetailed so nicely with my latest post.   Why…

Preparing to Transform

I have been attending therapy faithfully.  I look forward to the day when I don’t require it any longer.  At the same time, I encourage people to go.  For some people, therapy is like an engine overhaul.  For others, it’s like going in for…

Living in Color…Again

I wrote this post six years ago on this very blog.  I woke up this morning and thought that it might be worth re-posting just in case someone needed to read it: It is no secret that the past few weeks have been difficult….

Practicing Joy

I have been writing about personal transformation referring to Alan Morinis’ book about the Mussar tradition, Every Day, Holy Day: 365 Days of Teachings and Practices from the Jewish Tradition of Mussar .  According to the Mussar tradition, we have to fuel our own…

The High Maintenance Woman and Self-Care

A few weeks ago while I was browsing through Facebook, I came upon one of those ubiquitous quizzes.  This particular quiz was entitled “How High Maintenance are You?” and the women who had completed it were more than happy to post and comment on their…

What Matzo Can Teach Us

We are in the middle of celebrating Passover.  That means lots of matzo.  If you’ve ever eaten matzo, then you’ll notice that it gets on everything.  I have crumbs everywhere.  It is the perfect food for fairy tales and getting lost in the woods….