Out of the Mire
…because thriving is the goal
Category: relationships
Epilogue: Five And A Half Years Later
I wrote a post entitled AFFECTIVE DEPRIVATION DISORDER AND ALEXITHYMIA IN MARRIAGE in 2014. I wrote it from a place of profound emotional and psychic pain, but there was also a thread of hope woven into that post because I thought I had found an… Continue Reading “Epilogue: Five And A Half Years Later”
Enabling Our Own Exploitation: An Inquiry
Sometimes I write a post, and the words flow with little effort on my part. It is as if an idea is born into the ether with its own agency. Sometimes, however, I feel anxiety because I know I’m going to say something that… Continue Reading “Enabling Our Own Exploitation: An Inquiry”
Living with Intention
I receive many emails asking how to fix a loved one. It might be a mother with a personality disorder or a partner or family member with alexithymia. In both cases, I have been that self-same person on the search for solutions. I have… Continue Reading “Living with Intention”
Lunch with My Mother
Well, I did it. I saw my mother and stepfather. I wasn’t nervous at all until about an hour before I had to leave, and then it hit me. I was suddenly scared that she was going to be unkind to me. I was… Continue Reading “Lunch with My Mother”
The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors
I am an independent person by nature. I was an only child until my mother remarried when I was 11 years-old suddenly making me the youngest of three girls. My developing personality came to a grinding halt. I didn’t know my place in my… Continue Reading “The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors”
Rebooting for the New Year
One of the broader topics on this blog is mental health and how mental health is defined and experienced in different contexts. The DSM-V has divided and sub-divided the human experience into so many diagnoses that I imagine that every human could find an… Continue Reading “Rebooting for the New Year”
The Betrayal of Disengagement: Reloaded
I wrote this post for another blog a little over a year ago, but I want to post it here, too, because I continue to get comments on this post–Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage. Out of hundreds of posts, that post is… Continue Reading “The Betrayal of Disengagement: Reloaded”
Having a Good Time in Hell
I had final exams this week. With the same teacher. How I ended up taking three classes with this man I can’t quite figure out. Serendipity, I guess. He was a doctor with a reputation, too. Other students would hear his name and cringe–“Oh,… Continue Reading “Having a Good Time in Hell”
The Ego and You
Relationships can be very rewarding, but, truthfully, they can be difficult. This is true for everyone regardless of any residual issues you might face in terms of family of origin, trauma, and relationship history. This makes personal development in terms of interpersonal effectiveness, perspective-taking,… Continue Reading “The Ego and You”
Another Saturday Night
I was prepared to publish a completely different post, and perhaps I will. But, as I was cleaning my kitchen, another thought came to mind. Why do so many people with deep trauma never reveal it even if much of it is adaptively processed?… Continue Reading “Another Saturday Night”
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