Category: domestic violence
Posted on September 14, 2019
by MJ
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Hello all! I know that it’s been a while since I posted anything. I have a good reason. I moved to San Francisco in July. Finally. The evolution of my life and that of my family has played out on this little blog, and… Continue Reading “First Blog Post from My New Home”
Posted on April 11, 2019
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I have been winding down my life in the cold North in preparation to pack it up and move it to the Bay Area. Adieu, snow and cold. Hello, Karl! This is Karl: Karl the Fog has his own Twitter (@KarltheFog) and Instagram (karlthefog)… Continue Reading “Challenging the Ex Factor”
Category: co-dependency, Complex PTSD, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, personal development, self-advocacy, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing after divorce, healing from PTSD, intrusive thoughts, personal development, Recovery, self-compassion, wise mind
Posted on March 6, 2019
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I think I’ve tried to write a blog post six or seven times in six or seven weeks and failed each time. If you knew my writing process, then you would know that is not me. I have never had a problem writing anything. … Continue Reading “Resiliency and Vulnerability”
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, human trafficking, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, self-advocacy, trauma, Women's IssuesTags: domestic abuse, healing process, personal development, practicing vulnerability, resiliency, Resiliency Spectrum, trauma
Posted on September 25, 2018
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I used to write a lot about trauma and the nature of it largely because I was in the middle of dealing with it. For me, I would try to get outside of my own traumas and inspect them as if I were looking… Continue Reading “Nine Things I’ve Learned”
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, happiness, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: creating happiness, developing grit, getting triggered, healing from PTSD, love after divorce, personal development, resiliency, sense of foreshortened future, therapeutic process, trauma recovery
Posted on November 25, 2017
by MJ
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For my non-American readers, Thursday was Thanksgiving here in the States. It is a big deal. It marks the beginning of The Holidays–a season of high stress, joy, high consumerism on display, dread, meaningful religious observations, turmoil, GERD, Mariah Carey on loop, and so… Continue Reading “Easing into The Season”
Category: anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic violence, encouragement, Healing, mental health, panic attacks, personal development, traumaTags: anxiety disorders, coping with anxiety, domestic abuse, enjoying holiday season, healing after divorce, panic attacks, PNS, SNS, stress during holidays, Thanksgiving
Posted on June 3, 2017
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I wanted to write something germane to your life and process. Something that might speak to you. To anyone. To everyone. Perhaps this might. I go to therapy every Tuesday. I like to think that I’m ‘getting it done’ whatever ‘it’ is, but, as… Continue Reading “The Essence of Healing”
Category: anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic violence, encouragement, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traumaTags: anxiety, Complex PTSD, fear of annihilation, healing after divorce, healing process, Recovery, therapeutic process
Posted on March 19, 2017
by MJ
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I have discussed core beliefs on this blog (Core Beliefs and Double Distortions, Gridlock and Core Beliefs, Core Beliefs) . After my “career” in therapy, I thought I’d covered all the ground until I landed on core beliefs. I learned that after putting in… Continue Reading “Deep Programming and Core Beliefs”
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, mental health, personal development, PTSD, Redemption, therapy, traumaTags: core beliefs, deep programming, family culture, Recovery, therapeutic process, trauma
Posted on January 21, 2017
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I want to address something that inevitably comes up during the healing process after a break-up or divorce particularly if your ex-partner was not a very nice person. What do I mean by ‘not nice’? Well, my marriage ended for many little reasons much… Continue Reading “The Disgust Cycle in Healing”
Category: divorce, domestic violence, encouragement, personal development, shame, therapy, traumaTags: divorce, divorce and judgment, domestic abuse, internalized disgust, Recovery, Resiliency Spectrum, shame, victim blaming
Posted on December 11, 2016
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“If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”— Hillel the Elder I’m 44 years-old, and I’ve been on the “therapy circuit” since I was 16. As soon as… Continue Reading “Embrace the Process of Healing”
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, encouragement, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing process, hope, personal development, PTSD, therapy, trauma
Posted on August 29, 2016
by MJ
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Saying ‘no’ is good. I seem to rarely do it, but I’ve heard other people tell me this. I am kidding. Sort of. I really find out just how good saying ‘no’ is particularly when I said ‘yes’ but really wanted to say ‘no’. Do you know… Continue Reading “Saying No is Good”
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, divorce, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, PTSD, self-advocacy, traumaTags: ANTs, distress tolerance, divorce, domestic abuse, healing process, PTSD, self-soothing, trauma, triggered responses