Category: encouragement

My Borderline mother: two years later

My relationship with my mother is complicated. It feels like a living thing quite separate from me. A complex, dangerous, unpredictable, delicate and yet tenacious living thing that persists. I’ve written a lot about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and my mother in this space… Continue Reading “My Borderline mother: two years later”

When The Smallest Creatures Speak

I had an interesting experience last Friday.  I had developed symptoms of COVID-19 before San Francisco was ordered to shelter in place and self-quarantined almost two weeks earlier.  My doctor called me into the office to be tested, but the tests take about 4… Continue Reading “When The Smallest Creatures Speak”

Necessary Unraveling to Transformation

Happy New Year, everyone! As an exercise in developing intention for the new year ahead, I looked back over the past year.  In the spirit of looking back, I browsed at the beginning of this blog and saw that my first post was in… Continue Reading “Necessary Unraveling to Transformation”

Resiliency and Vulnerability

I think I’ve tried to write a blog post six or seven times in six or seven weeks and failed each time.  If you knew my writing process, then you would know that is not me.  I have never had a problem writing anything. … Continue Reading “Resiliency and Vulnerability”

An Introduction to Personal Inertia and Taking Action

I can usually write a blog post in an hour or two but not this time.  For some reason I could not put this post together no matter how hard I tried.  I sat down in December to write a post on personal inertia. … Continue Reading “An Introduction to Personal Inertia and Taking Action”

Stopping the Holiday Madness

The Iceman hath indeed cometh to my neighborhood.  I woke up in the wee hours of the morning to the sound of snowplows clearing snow and scraping concrete.  I had grand plans to “get shit done” yesterday until my car got stuck in the… Continue Reading “Stopping the Holiday Madness”

Becoming an Agent of Goodness

I am seldom on Facebook, but, as I was up bright and early this morning, I indulged my urge and took a peek.  This is what I found: My knee-jerk reaction was, “What the fu…”  Was I more shocked by the original “prayer” or… Continue Reading “Becoming an Agent of Goodness”

Nine Things I’ve Learned

I used to write a lot about trauma and the nature of it largely because I was in the middle of dealing with it.  For me, I would try to get outside of my own traumas and inspect them as if I were looking… Continue Reading “Nine Things I’ve Learned”

Playing Scrabble with Life

Happy September, everyone! I am ending a three-week break from school. The girls and I headed West to San Francisco for 12 days of doing whatever we wanted which pretty much meant drinking too much boba, hitting up stores that are not in the… Continue Reading “Playing Scrabble with Life”

Living with Intention

I receive many emails asking how to fix a loved one.  It might be a mother with a personality disorder or a partner or family member with alexithymia.  In both cases, I have been that self-same person on the search for solutions.  I have… Continue Reading “Living with Intention”