Category: co-dependency
Posted on April 20, 2021
by MJ
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My relationship with my mother is complicated. It feels like a living thing quite separate from me. A complex, dangerous, unpredictable, delicate and yet tenacious living thing that persists. I’ve written a lot about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and my mother in this space… Continue Reading “My Borderline mother: two years later”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, compassion, encouragement, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, personal development, trauma, UncategorizedTags: 5 stages of Grief, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, Mother Wound, mothers and daughters, recovering from abuse, trauma recovery
Posted on September 14, 2019
by MJ
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Hello all! I know that it’s been a while since I posted anything. I have a good reason. I moved to San Francisco in July. Finally. The evolution of my life and that of my family has played out on this little blog, and… Continue Reading “First Blog Post from My New Home”
Posted on April 11, 2019
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I have been winding down my life in the cold North in preparation to pack it up and move it to the Bay Area. Adieu, snow and cold. Hello, Karl! This is Karl: Karl the Fog has his own Twitter (@KarltheFog) and Instagram (karlthefog)… Continue Reading “Challenging the Ex Factor”
Category: co-dependency, Complex PTSD, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, personal development, self-advocacy, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing after divorce, healing from PTSD, intrusive thoughts, personal development, Recovery, self-compassion, wise mind
Posted on February 17, 2018
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To bring you up to speed, one of the reasons I started this blog ages ago was to process having a relationship with my mother. My mother has borderline personality disorder (BPD), but she also has other co-morbid disorders. When I was growing up,… Continue Reading “Choosing the Healing Path”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, Healing, Mothers, Personality Disorders, Rage, Sadistic Personality Disorder, suffering, therapy, TruthTags: abuse in families, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, enabling abuse, healing process, sadistic personality disorder
Posted on March 16, 2015
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I have been asked to write something about healing. Personal healing. How do we heal? I find that interesting seeing as how I’m in the middle of something of a healing crisis. I sat down a few months ago to try to write something. Simply… Continue Reading “The First Step in Healing”
Category: abuse in families, co-dependency, domestic violence, emotional abuse, Faith, Healing, mental health, relationships, therapy, Truth, Women's IssuesTags: abuse in families, boundaries, Christianity and domestic violence statistics, co-dependency, enabling abuse, narrative approach, Truth for healing, victim blaming
Posted on August 7, 2014
by MJ
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I live in Minnesota. I overheard someone say once that we work for our seasons. That’s an oddly funny thing to say, but, if you live here, then you’ll understand the meaning in that sentiment. As a seasonal change approaches, the current weather patterns… Continue Reading “Abandoning the Self”
Category: abuse in families, co-dependency, Complex PTSD, Denial, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, emotional abuse, Healing, marriage, PTSD, Recovery, relationships, therapyTags: abuse, Complex PTSD, distress tolerance, emotional flashbacks, emotional neglect, mindfulness, narrative approach, PTSD, self-abandonment, therapy
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
Posted on July 23, 2012
by MJ
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I’ve discussed myriad topics on this blog ranging from community, body image issues, forgiveness, faith, PTSD, and recovery. I’ve also discussed something called ‘differentiation’ although I haven’t called it that. Essentially, the work I’ve been doing to extract myself from the toxic and abusive… Continue Reading “A Conclusion”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, Complex PTSD, Faith, human trafficking, Moving Forward, PTSD, traits in victims, UncategorizedTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristics of co-dependency, co-dependency, differentiation, PTSD, separation and individuation, therapy, traits in victims
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