Tag: domestic abuse
Posted on July 3, 2020
by MJ
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I wrote a post entitled AFFECTIVE DEPRIVATION DISORDER AND ALEXITHYMIA IN MARRIAGE in 2014. I wrote it from a place of profound emotional and psychic pain, but there was also a thread of hope woven into that post because I thought I had found an… Continue Reading “Epilogue: Five And A Half Years Later”
Category: domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, long-term relationships, personal development, relationships, Uncategorized, Women's IssuesTags: Affective Deprivation Disorder, alexithymia, domestic abuse, emotional exploitation, healing after divorce, reciprocity in relationships
Posted on April 11, 2019
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I have been winding down my life in the cold North in preparation to pack it up and move it to the Bay Area. Adieu, snow and cold. Hello, Karl! This is Karl: Karl the Fog has his own Twitter (@KarltheFog) and Instagram (karlthefog)… Continue Reading “Challenging the Ex Factor”
Category: co-dependency, Complex PTSD, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, personal development, self-advocacy, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing after divorce, healing from PTSD, intrusive thoughts, personal development, Recovery, self-compassion, wise mind
Posted on March 6, 2019
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I think I’ve tried to write a blog post six or seven times in six or seven weeks and failed each time. If you knew my writing process, then you would know that is not me. I have never had a problem writing anything. … Continue Reading “Resiliency and Vulnerability”
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, human trafficking, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, self-advocacy, trauma, Women's IssuesTags: domestic abuse, healing process, personal development, practicing vulnerability, resiliency, Resiliency Spectrum, trauma
Posted on December 7, 2017
by MJ
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Jack the New Therapist aka the FNG will be no longer. It has become a failed collaboration. That is what my reasonable self says. My snarky self is pointing at this: Jack has one of the worst Resting Bored Faces I’ve come across. There are… Continue Reading “A Timely Ending”
Category: divorce, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traumaTags: cognitive dissonance, domestic abuse, EMDR, healing from PTSD, healing from trauma, myth of arrival, Recovery, Resting Bored Face, therapy, when a therapist isn't effective
Posted on November 25, 2017
by MJ
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For my non-American readers, Thursday was Thanksgiving here in the States. It is a big deal. It marks the beginning of The Holidays–a season of high stress, joy, high consumerism on display, dread, meaningful religious observations, turmoil, GERD, Mariah Carey on loop, and so… Continue Reading “Easing into The Season”
Category: anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic violence, encouragement, Healing, mental health, panic attacks, personal development, traumaTags: anxiety disorders, coping with anxiety, domestic abuse, enjoying holiday season, healing after divorce, panic attacks, PNS, SNS, stress during holidays, Thanksgiving
Posted on February 11, 2017
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I went to therapy on Tuesday with a migraine. I have to pause for a moment and talk about migraines, pain, and trauma. Whenever I have mentioned the nightmare known as The Migraine on any blog, well-meaning people have offered helpful comments. I certainly want… Continue Reading “The Buffer and Rat Park”
Category: coping strategies, divorce, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, migraines, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, therapyTags: creating the life you want, divorce, domestic abuse, encouragement, healing process, migraines, personal development, PTSD, Rat Park, therapy, trauma
Posted on January 21, 2017
by MJ
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I want to address something that inevitably comes up during the healing process after a break-up or divorce particularly if your ex-partner was not a very nice person. What do I mean by ‘not nice’? Well, my marriage ended for many little reasons much… Continue Reading “The Disgust Cycle in Healing”
Category: divorce, domestic violence, encouragement, personal development, shame, therapy, traumaTags: divorce, divorce and judgment, domestic abuse, internalized disgust, Recovery, Resiliency Spectrum, shame, victim blaming
Posted on December 11, 2016
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“If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”— Hillel the Elder I’m 44 years-old, and I’ve been on the “therapy circuit” since I was 16. As soon as… Continue Reading “Embrace the Process of Healing”
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, encouragement, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing process, hope, personal development, PTSD, therapy, trauma
Posted on August 29, 2016
by MJ
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Saying ‘no’ is good. I seem to rarely do it, but I’ve heard other people tell me this. I am kidding. Sort of. I really find out just how good saying ‘no’ is particularly when I said ‘yes’ but really wanted to say ‘no’. Do you know… Continue Reading “Saying No is Good”
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, divorce, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, PTSD, self-advocacy, traumaTags: ANTs, distress tolerance, divorce, domestic abuse, healing process, PTSD, self-soothing, trauma, triggered responses
Posted on August 2, 2016
by MJ
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I am going to record this for a very specific reason. Sometimes people give something away in the moment, and that’s the moment that things crystalize. That’s the insight that you needed to confirm your hypothesis. That’s when you know that you were right.… Continue Reading “Entitlement and Domestic Abuse”
Category: abuse in families, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, men with borderline personality disorderTags: abuse, divorce, domestic abuse, entitlement, life after divorce, Lundy Bancroft, Should I Stay or Should I Go
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