Category: emotional abuse
Posted on July 3, 2020
by MJ
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I wrote a post entitled AFFECTIVE DEPRIVATION DISORDER AND ALEXITHYMIA IN MARRIAGE in 2014. I wrote it from a place of profound emotional and psychic pain, but there was also a thread of hope woven into that post because I thought I had found an… Continue Reading “Epilogue: Five And A Half Years Later”
Category: domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, long-term relationships, personal development, relationships, Uncategorized, Women's IssuesTags: Affective Deprivation Disorder, alexithymia, domestic abuse, emotional exploitation, healing after divorce, reciprocity in relationships
Posted on April 21, 2020
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Recently, I had a conversation with someone in which they asked me about self-loathing and how to overcome it. It seems that this person lived within a polarized self-image either liking themselves at one moment or hating themselves the next; and, this split view-always… Continue Reading “A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, Healing, personal development, traits in victims, traumaTags: healing from trauma, healing process, Inner Critic, perfectionism, personal development, self-compassion, self-loathing, trauma
Posted on July 14, 2018
by MJ
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I have devoted a lot of space on this blog to writing about PTSD, C+PTSD, and healing from trauma. I’ve been honest about my own journey towards wholeness. What I share here is an attempt to elucidate the emotional experience behind C+PTSD in specific… Continue Reading “Generalized Anxiety vs. PTSD Anxiety”
Category: abuse in families, anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, PTSD, traits in victims, traumaTags: anxiety related to trauma, Complex PTSD, generalized anxiety, healing from PTSD, hypervigilance, mindfulness and trauma, PTSD, trauma, trauma recovery
Posted on December 7, 2017
by MJ
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Jack the New Therapist aka the FNG will be no longer. It has become a failed collaboration. That is what my reasonable self says. My snarky self is pointing at this: Jack has one of the worst Resting Bored Faces I’ve come across. There are… Continue Reading “A Timely Ending”
Category: divorce, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traumaTags: cognitive dissonance, domestic abuse, EMDR, healing from PTSD, healing from trauma, myth of arrival, Recovery, Resting Bored Face, therapy, when a therapist isn't effective
Posted on March 19, 2017
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I have discussed core beliefs on this blog (Core Beliefs and Double Distortions, Gridlock and Core Beliefs, Core Beliefs) . After my “career” in therapy, I thought I’d covered all the ground until I landed on core beliefs. I learned that after putting in… Continue Reading “Deep Programming and Core Beliefs”
Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, mental health, personal development, PTSD, Redemption, therapy, traumaTags: core beliefs, deep programming, family culture, Recovery, therapeutic process, trauma
Posted on February 11, 2017
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I went to therapy on Tuesday with a migraine. I have to pause for a moment and talk about migraines, pain, and trauma. Whenever I have mentioned the nightmare known as The Migraine on any blog, well-meaning people have offered helpful comments. I certainly want… Continue Reading “The Buffer and Rat Park”
Category: coping strategies, divorce, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, migraines, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, therapyTags: creating the life you want, divorce, domestic abuse, encouragement, healing process, migraines, personal development, PTSD, Rat Park, therapy, trauma
Posted on August 3, 2016
by MJ
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I wrote this post, The Male Borderline Waif, a year ago, and it gets a lot of daily traffic. For as much research that’s been accomplished over the decades around borderline personality disorder (BPD), there are still few answers to be had particularly for… Continue Reading “Borderline Personality Disorder and Mirroring”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, divorce, emotional abuse, men with borderline personality disorder, mental health, Personality Disorders, therapyTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, disturbed identity, divorcing a male borderline, fear of abandonment and mirroring, male borderline, mirroring behaviors in personality disorders
Posted on May 8, 2016
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I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis. There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric… Continue Reading “The Borderline Blame Storm”
Category: abuse in families, blame, Borderline Personality Disorder, cluster c personality disorders, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, relationships, self-advocacyTags: abuse, accountability in relationships, blame, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, narcissistic injury, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, narcissistic supply, personality disordered parents, theory of mind deficits
Posted on January 24, 2016
by MJ
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I have been thinking about this idea of The Reboot, which I wrote about in my previous post. Clearly, I’m not entirely empty in my old noggin. I had an actual thought and pondered it, too! Have I ever felt like this before in… Continue Reading “Overcoming a Sense of a Foreshortened Future”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, personal development, Recovery, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: Complex PTSD, healing process, object permanence, PTSD, sense of foreshortened future, the traumatized brain, trauma
Posted on December 19, 2015
by MJ
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It’s the holiday season, and you know what that means. It’s Letter from My Mother time! For those of you familiar with her, I fully expect an eye roll. For those of you new to my blog, just roll your eyes. She seems to… Continue Reading “No Apologies”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Personality Disorders, TruthTags: abuse in families, apologies, bad apologies, borderline mothers, gaslighting, healing from past abuse, mental illness
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