Category: domestic abuse
Posted on July 3, 2020
by MJ
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I wrote a post entitled AFFECTIVE DEPRIVATION DISORDER AND ALEXITHYMIA IN MARRIAGE in 2014. I wrote it from a place of profound emotional and psychic pain, but there was also a thread of hope woven into that post because I thought I had found an…
Category: domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, long-term relationships, personal development, relationships, Uncategorized, Women's IssuesTags: Affective Deprivation Disorder, alexithymia, domestic abuse, emotional exploitation, healing after divorce, reciprocity in relationships
Posted on April 11, 2019
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I have been winding down my life in the cold North in preparation to pack it up and move it to the Bay Area. Adieu, snow and cold. Hello, Karl! This is Karl: Karl the Fog has his own Twitter (@KarltheFog) and Instagram (karlthefog)…
Category: co-dependency, Complex PTSD, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, personal development, self-advocacy, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing after divorce, healing from PTSD, intrusive thoughts, personal development, Recovery, self-compassion, wise mind
Posted on March 6, 2019
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I think I’ve tried to write a blog post six or seven times in six or seven weeks and failed each time. If you knew my writing process, then you would know that is not me. I have never had a problem writing anything. …
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, human trafficking, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, self-advocacy, trauma, Women's IssuesTags: domestic abuse, healing process, personal development, practicing vulnerability, resiliency, Resiliency Spectrum, trauma
Posted on September 25, 2018
by MJ
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I used to write a lot about trauma and the nature of it largely because I was in the middle of dealing with it. For me, I would try to get outside of my own traumas and inspect them as if I were looking…
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, happiness, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: creating happiness, developing grit, getting triggered, healing from PTSD, love after divorce, personal development, resiliency, sense of foreshortened future, therapeutic process, trauma recovery
Posted on July 14, 2018
by MJ
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I have devoted a lot of space on this blog to writing about PTSD, C+PTSD, and healing from trauma. I’ve been honest about my own journey towards wholeness. What I share here is an attempt to elucidate the emotional experience behind C+PTSD in specific…
Category: abuse in families, anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, PTSD, traits in victims, traumaTags: anxiety related to trauma, Complex PTSD, generalized anxiety, healing from PTSD, hypervigilance, mindfulness and trauma, PTSD, trauma, trauma recovery
Posted on December 7, 2017
by MJ
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Jack the New Therapist aka the FNG will be no longer. It has become a failed collaboration. That is what my reasonable self says. My snarky self is pointing at this: Jack has one of the worst Resting Bored Faces I’ve come across. There are…
Category: divorce, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traumaTags: cognitive dissonance, domestic abuse, EMDR, healing from PTSD, healing from trauma, myth of arrival, Recovery, Resting Bored Face, therapy, when a therapist isn't effective
Posted on June 11, 2017
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I learned something new this week. Well, I should say that I relearned something old, and it resonated as if it were new. It’s worth sharing. There is a phenomenon that almost everyone seems to experience, at some point, after surviving something bad that…
Category: anxiety, blame, domestic abuse, encouragement, Faith, Healing, Moving Forward, Recovery, therapyTags: blame, Living with uncertainty, narrative, Recovery, self-blame, stigma and trauma, therapy, victim blaming
Posted on February 11, 2017
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I went to therapy on Tuesday with a migraine. I have to pause for a moment and talk about migraines, pain, and trauma. Whenever I have mentioned the nightmare known as The Migraine on any blog, well-meaning people have offered helpful comments. I certainly want…
Category: coping strategies, divorce, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, migraines, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, therapyTags: creating the life you want, divorce, domestic abuse, encouragement, healing process, migraines, personal development, PTSD, Rat Park, therapy, trauma
Posted on August 2, 2016
by MJ
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I am going to record this for a very specific reason. Sometimes people give something away in the moment, and that’s the moment that things crystalize. That’s the insight that you needed to confirm your hypothesis. That’s when you know that you were right….
Category: abuse in families, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, men with borderline personality disorderTags: abuse, divorce, domestic abuse, entitlement, life after divorce, Lundy Bancroft, Should I Stay or Should I Go
Posted on September 9, 2015
by MJ
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Stress. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I keep telling myself that. Stress is one of those buzz words in our culture that implies that something is wrong. It’s not something that needs to be. It is simply an outside force acting…
