Category: personal development
Posted on April 20, 2021
by MJ
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My relationship with my mother is complicated. It feels like a living thing quite separate from me. A complex, dangerous, unpredictable, delicate and yet tenacious living thing that persists. I’ve written a lot about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and my mother in this space… Continue Reading “My Borderline mother: two years later”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, compassion, encouragement, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, personal development, trauma, UncategorizedTags: 5 stages of Grief, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, Mother Wound, mothers and daughters, recovering from abuse, trauma recovery
Posted on October 6, 2020
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I am accustomed to writing these long and flowing posts, and, I think, that if I’m going to write regularly I must change my approach because my life has become so saturated with commitments largely due to graduate school. With that said, I’m going… Continue Reading “A Dream and a prayer”
Posted on July 3, 2020
by MJ
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I wrote a post entitled AFFECTIVE DEPRIVATION DISORDER AND ALEXITHYMIA IN MARRIAGE in 2014. I wrote it from a place of profound emotional and psychic pain, but there was also a thread of hope woven into that post because I thought I had found an… Continue Reading “Epilogue: Five And A Half Years Later”
Category: domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, long-term relationships, personal development, relationships, Uncategorized, Women's IssuesTags: Affective Deprivation Disorder, alexithymia, domestic abuse, emotional exploitation, healing after divorce, reciprocity in relationships
Posted on April 21, 2020
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Recently, I had a conversation with someone in which they asked me about self-loathing and how to overcome it. It seems that this person lived within a polarized self-image either liking themselves at one moment or hating themselves the next; and, this split view-always… Continue Reading “A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, Healing, personal development, traits in victims, traumaTags: healing from trauma, healing process, Inner Critic, perfectionism, personal development, self-compassion, self-loathing, trauma
Posted on February 21, 2020
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Sometimes I write a post, and the words flow with little effort on my part. It is as if an idea is born into the ether with its own agency. Sometimes, however, I feel anxiety because I know I’m going to say something that… Continue Reading “Enabling Our Own Exploitation: An Inquiry”
Posted on January 6, 2020
by MJ
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Happy New Year, everyone! As an exercise in developing intention for the new year ahead, I looked back over the past year. In the spirit of looking back, I browsed at the beginning of this blog and saw that my first post was in… Continue Reading “Necessary Unraveling to Transformation”
Category: encouragement, Healing, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, traumaTags: blogging and healing, healing after divorce, healing process, narrative approach, personal transformation, Recovery, trauma and meaning, trauma recovery
Posted on June 1, 2019
by MJ
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I don’t think I’ve ever gone this long without posting. For what it’s worth, I’m almost ready to move from the Twin Cities to the Bay Area. This has been a daunting task requiring maximum effort. So much good has come from the endless… Continue Reading “Expanding Your Life: Unearthing Negative Core Beliefs”
Category: Complex PTSD, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, PTSD, sex trade, traumaTags: an intentional life, Complex PTSD, healing process, human trafficking, narrative approach, negative core beliefs, personal development, torture and human trafficking, trauma
Posted on April 19, 2019
by MJ
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We are in the middle of preparing for Passover which will soon be upon us. I was listening to Lord Rabbi Jonathan Sacks discuss his interpretation of an element of the Exodus story when something he said struck me. He said that identity requires… Continue Reading “Identity and Memory”
Posted on April 11, 2019
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I have been winding down my life in the cold North in preparation to pack it up and move it to the Bay Area. Adieu, snow and cold. Hello, Karl! This is Karl: Karl the Fog has his own Twitter (@KarltheFog) and Instagram (karlthefog)… Continue Reading “Challenging the Ex Factor”
Category: co-dependency, Complex PTSD, DBT, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, personal development, self-advocacy, traumaTags: domestic abuse, healing after divorce, healing from PTSD, intrusive thoughts, personal development, Recovery, self-compassion, wise mind
Posted on March 6, 2019
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I think I’ve tried to write a blog post six or seven times in six or seven weeks and failed each time. If you knew my writing process, then you would know that is not me. I have never had a problem writing anything. … Continue Reading “Resiliency and Vulnerability”
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, human trafficking, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, self-advocacy, trauma, Women's IssuesTags: domestic abuse, healing process, personal development, practicing vulnerability, resiliency, Resiliency Spectrum, trauma