Month: August 2016

Saying No is Good

Posted on August 29, 2016 by MJ

Saying ‘no’ is good. I seem to rarely do it, but I’ve heard other people tell me this. I am kidding. Sort of. I really find out just how good saying ‘no’ is particularly when I said ‘yes’ but really wanted to say ‘no’. Do you know… Continue Reading “Saying No is Good”

Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, divorce, domestic violence, Healing, mental health, PTSD, self-advocacy, traumaTags: ANTs, distress tolerance, divorce, domestic abuse, healing process, PTSD, self-soothing, trauma, triggered responses

Borderline Personality Disorder and Mirroring

Posted on August 3, 2016 by MJ

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I wrote this post, The Male Borderline Waif, a year ago, and it gets a lot of daily traffic. For as much research that’s been accomplished over the decades around borderline personality disorder (BPD), there are still few answers to be had particularly for… Continue Reading “Borderline Personality Disorder and Mirroring”

Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, divorce, emotional abuse, men with borderline personality disorder, mental health, Personality Disorders, therapyTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, disturbed identity, divorcing a male borderline, fear of abandonment and mirroring, male borderline, mirroring behaviors in personality disorders

Entitlement and Domestic Abuse

Posted on August 2, 2016 by MJ

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I am going to record this for a very specific reason. Sometimes people give something away in the moment, and that’s the moment that things crystalize. That’s the insight that you needed to confirm your hypothesis. That’s when you know that you were right.… Continue Reading “Entitlement and Domestic Abuse”

Category: abuse in families, divorce, domestic abuse, domestic violence, men with borderline personality disorderTags: abuse, divorce, domestic abuse, entitlement, life after divorce, Lundy Bancroft, Should I Stay or Should I Go