Category: trauma
Posted on September 25, 2018
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I used to write a lot about trauma and the nature of it largely because I was in the middle of dealing with it. For me, I would try to get outside of my own traumas and inspect them as if I were looking…
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, happiness, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: creating happiness, developing grit, getting triggered, healing from PTSD, love after divorce, personal development, resiliency, sense of foreshortened future, therapeutic process, trauma recovery
Posted on July 14, 2018
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I have devoted a lot of space on this blog to writing about PTSD, C+PTSD, and healing from trauma. I’ve been honest about my own journey towards wholeness. What I share here is an attempt to elucidate the emotional experience behind C+PTSD in specific…
Category: abuse in families, anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, PTSD, traits in victims, traumaTags: anxiety related to trauma, Complex PTSD, generalized anxiety, healing from PTSD, hypervigilance, mindfulness and trauma, PTSD, trauma, trauma recovery
Posted on May 5, 2018
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In a state of anxious frustration, I wrote about sexual harassment a few month’s ago. Another student was sexually harassing me, and my school’s administration was less than stellar in their handling of the situation. Well, they really didn’t handle it. The situation is…
Posted on April 7, 2018
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Today is a momentous day. I see my mother at noon today for the first time in almost ten years. At least I think it’s ten years. I have some long-time readers who will know that this is a big deal. I have many…
Category: abuse in families, assertiveness, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, Mothers, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, therapy, traumaTags: assertiveness, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, emotional exploitation, resiliency, therapeutic process
Posted on February 12, 2018
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I have been trying to find an appropriate way to write about a particular “emotional” experience that I have endured for years. I wouldn’t blog about this were it not for the fact that most survivors of trauma seem to experience something quite similar. …
Category: Healing, human trafficking, panic attacks, PTSD, therapy, traumaTags: biologically embedded trauma, essential oils in emotional healing, healing, PTSD, therapeutic process, trauma recovery
Posted on December 22, 2017
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I want to talk about negative core beliefs and dissonance–and perhaps a way to challenge them effectively. Bear with me as I get there. I have written a lot about my last two years in therapy with a neuroscientist. I didn’t know initially that…
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, mental health, personal development, PTSD, Recovery, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: biologically based trauma, challenging core beliefs, cognitive dissonance, healing from PTSD, maladaptively processed memories, malignant core beliefs, target behaviors, therapy
Posted on December 20, 2017
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I want to talk about how finding out what motivates you can lead to personal liberation. To do that, I will take you back to my junior year of college. I was something of a fresh-faced know-it-all with something to prove. I didn’t really…
Category: encouragement, Healing, Moving Forward, personal development, traumaTags: compartmentalization, healing from trauma, healing process, integration, integrity, perfectionism, performance-based identity, personal development, Recovery
Posted on December 7, 2017
by MJ
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Jack the New Therapist aka the FNG will be no longer. It has become a failed collaboration. That is what my reasonable self says. My snarky self is pointing at this: Jack has one of the worst Resting Bored Faces I’ve come across. There are…
Category: divorce, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, encouragement, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traumaTags: cognitive dissonance, domestic abuse, EMDR, healing from PTSD, healing from trauma, myth of arrival, Recovery, Resting Bored Face, therapy, when a therapist isn't effective
Posted on November 25, 2017
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For my non-American readers, Thursday was Thanksgiving here in the States. It is a big deal. It marks the beginning of The Holidays–a season of high stress, joy, high consumerism on display, dread, meaningful religious observations, turmoil, GERD, Mariah Carey on loop, and so…
Category: anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic violence, encouragement, Healing, mental health, panic attacks, personal development, traumaTags: anxiety disorders, coping with anxiety, domestic abuse, enjoying holiday season, healing after divorce, panic attacks, PNS, SNS, stress during holidays, Thanksgiving
Posted on November 23, 2017
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I saw Jack, my still-feeling-new therapist, on Tuesday, and we had an almost adversarial session. It didn’t feel therapeutic to me. I felt as if I were there to challenge his ideas and assumptions of what survivors of trauma look like. He consistently says,…
Category: anxiety, encouragement, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, therapy, traumaTags: epigenetics and trauma, healing process, imagining change, narrative brain, Recovery, therapy, trauma recovery
Posted on November 15, 2017
by MJ
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I had an interesting therapy experience yesterday. Jack is a very different therapist from my previous therapist. The gap is growing wider forming a gulf that is coming to represent their differences, and I’m missing my former therapist more and more. Alas, change is…
Category: encouragement, Healing, love, mental health, Moving Forward, Recovery, sex, sexless marriage, Sexual Abuse, therapy, traumaTags: life after divorce, relationships after divorce, sex after divorce, sexless marriage, sexual recovery after trauma, sexuality, therapy, trauma, Trust after Trauma
Posted on November 11, 2017
by MJ
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I have recently been reading a lot of material on the endocrine system and neurology. Why? Anatomy and Physiology II. Brain, brain, brain, brain. What I’ve learned, aside from more than I ever expected to know about hormones, is that distress of all kinds…
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, traits in victims, traumaTags: catastrophizing, habenula, healing, healing from PTSD, learned helplessness, neuroscience, outlier events, Storytelling Brain, Time Perspective Therapy, trauma, What if
