Category: shame

Circumstantial Alchemy

I like to write useful posts, and I’m going to try to spin this “leaden” topic into gold as it were.  I think I can do it. I am certainly getting many opportunities to engage in circumstantial alchemy at my college. I have to confess…

The Disgust Cycle in Healing

I want to address something that inevitably comes up during the healing process after a break-up or divorce particularly if your ex-partner was not a very nice person.  What do I mean by ‘not nice’? Well, my marriage ended for many little reasons much…

Core Beliefs and Double Distortions

I paused writing about therapy because I wasn’t sure where to start.  I wish I could have filmed one session.  It was that good.  Alas, I will start where I stopped–core beliefs. Between the breath work and the core beliefs work, recovery is moving…

Empathy vs. Sympathy

I’ve written about Brené Brown before.  Her PhD and research are focused on shame.  In one of her books, she identified herself as a ‘shame researcher’.  I find this fascinating.  Shame is part of the human experience as is its cousin, humiliation, and its brother, guilt….

Do You Like Receiving Compliments?

If you, like me, would rather artificially inseminate a stallion than receive a compliment, then this article is for you.  Here’s a quote: “…receiving praise from others when we feel negatively about ourselves elicits discomfort because it conflicts with our existing belief system. If…