Tag: cognitive dissonance

Pushing Back against Malignant Core Beliefs

I want to talk about negative core beliefs and dissonance–and perhaps a way to challenge them effectively.  Bear with me as I get there.  I have written a lot about my last two years in therapy with a neuroscientist.  I didn’t know initially that…

A Timely Ending

Jack the New Therapist aka the FNG will be no longer.  It has become a failed collaboration.  That is what my reasonable self says.  My snarky self is pointing at this: Jack has one of the worst Resting Bored Faces I’ve come across.  There are…

Gridlock and Core Beliefs

It’s taken me a few days to adequately internalize a more profound understanding of core beliefs.  The idea of challenging them doesn’t seem like enough to me.  I want to uproot them.  I want them outta here! How do I get that done? When…

Core Beliefs

Okay, I’m going to get right into it.  How do you heal from trauma? From the profound shit that keeps you locked up inside yourself? Well, let’s talk about that because I finally hit the motherlode. Core beliefs.  F*cking core beliefs. What is a…

Do You Like Receiving Compliments?

If you, like me, would rather artificially inseminate a stallion than receive a compliment, then this article is for you.  Here’s a quote: “…receiving praise from others when we feel negatively about ourselves elicits discomfort because it conflicts with our existing belief system. If…