Tag: DBT

The Reboot

“Can you burn out a brain?” That was my question to my therapist on Tuesday.  He just leaned back and knowingly stared at me.  Dammit, but why won’t he just give me a straight answer for once?! Have you ever felt like your brain…

Self-Validation and Recovery of the Self

Circumstances never wait for us to be ready.  Some circumstances happen suddenly, and some, looking back, have been simmering for a long time.  It’s not a surprise when they boil over and make a mess.  Why do we then feel surprised? Is it denial?…

Mindfulness and DBT

One of the core concepts in DBT is mindfulness.  In every skills training group meeting, we continually come back to it.  We open up every meeting with a mindfulness exercise, and we spend a lot of time discussing mindfulness.  So, what is mindfulness? Well,…

Cleaning Up Messes

My youngest daughter asked me an unusual question today.  She asked, “Mom, how come you turned out so normal?” We were in the car, and her question came out of the blue.  She knows little about my history.  It’s not as if I sit…

Anxiety, DBT, and The Dialectic

I have four daughters, and, for whatever reason, they are all susceptible to anxiety.  Studies have shown that people born with a smaller hippocampus in comparison to others tend to struggle with anxiety and a propensity to develop PTSD after trauma.  My husband has…