Category: Dialectical Behavior Therapy

Challenging the Ex Factor

I have been winding down my life in the cold North in preparation to pack it up and move it to the Bay Area.  Adieu, snow and cold.  Hello, Karl! This is Karl: Karl the Fog has his own Twitter (@KarltheFog) and Instagram (karlthefog)…

Healthy Assertiveness

Eight years ago after I had completed my epic three-year life and personality overhaul aka three years of psychotherapy, my therapist, a certified life coach in addition to being a therapist, changed his approach.  We left the therapeutic approach behind and entered into coaching, a…

The Importance of EMDR

I want to talk about EMDR.  What is EMDR? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)1 is a comprehensive, integrative psychotherapy approach. It contains elements of many effective psychotherapies in structured protocols that are designed to maximize treatment effects. These include psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, interpersonal, experiential,…

Self-Validation and Recovery of the Self

Circumstances never wait for us to be ready.  Some circumstances happen suddenly, and some, looking back, have been simmering for a long time.  It’s not a surprise when they boil over and make a mess.  Why do we then feel surprised? Is it denial?…

Abandoning the Self

I live in Minnesota.  I overheard someone say once that we work for our seasons.  That’s an oddly funny thing to say, but, if you live here, then you’ll understand the meaning in that sentiment. As a seasonal change approaches, the current weather patterns…

Mindfulness and DBT

One of the core concepts in DBT is mindfulness.  In every skills training group meeting, we continually come back to it.  We open up every meeting with a mindfulness exercise, and we spend a lot of time discussing mindfulness.  So, what is mindfulness? Well,…

DBT Assumptions

There is one core dialectic nestled in the DBT assumptions: People are doing the best they can, and people need to do better, try harder, and be more motivated to change. Here is the entire list of DBT assumptions: People are doing the best…