Tag: validation

The Ego and You

Posted on March 12, 2017 by MJ

Relationships can be very rewarding, but, truthfully, they can be difficult. This is true for everyone regardless of any residual issues you might face in terms of family of origin, trauma, and relationship history. This makes personal development in terms of interpersonal effectiveness, perspective-taking,… Continue Reading “The Ego and You”

Category: blame, Healing, mental health, personal development, relationships, traumaTags: blame, ego development, empathy, gaining insight, gaslighting, personal development, shame, validation

Healthy Assertiveness

Posted on July 12, 2015 by MJ

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Eight years ago after I had completed my epic three-year life and personality overhaul aka three years of psychotherapy, my therapist, a certified life coach in addition to being a therapist, changed his approach. We left the therapeutic approach behind and entered into coaching, a… Continue Reading “Healthy Assertiveness”

Category: assertiveness, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, divorce, therapyTags: abusive behavior in relationships, assertiveness, dialectical behavior therapy, divorce, life coaching, self-advocacy, sympathetic nervous system, validation

Categorizing Behaviors

Posted on March 11, 2015 by MJ

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I had my third therapy session yesterday. My therapist decided to make a client-centered approach part of my treatment plan. I bristled at that. I’ve never progressed in a client-centered therapeutic environment. What? Just sit there and talk about what’s bothering me? I could… Continue Reading “Categorizing Behaviors”

Category: abuse in families, domestic violence, emotional abuse, mental health, sex trade, therapyTags: abuse, abusive behavior in relationships, crazymaking, domestic abuse, human trafficking, Resiliency Spectrum, therapy, validation

Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage

Posted on September 19, 2014 by MJ

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I have written somewhere in here that my marriage has been difficult. If you’re married for nearly two decades, then I think, at some point, there will come hard relational times. It’s inevitable and normal. I am someone who doesn’t like to put up… Continue Reading “Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage”

Category: abuse in families, autism, cluster c personality disorders, DBT, disorders, God, Healing, marriage, therapyTags: Affective Deprivation Disorder, alexithymia, Alexithymia and other psychiatric disorders, Aspergating the self, Asperger's in marriage, self-validation, validation

Self-Validation and Recovery of the Self

Posted on August 14, 2014 by MJ

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Circumstances never wait for us to be ready. Some circumstances happen suddenly, and some, looking back, have been simmering for a long time. It’s not a surprise when they boil over and make a mess. Why do we then feel surprised? Is it denial?… Continue Reading “Self-Validation and Recovery of the Self”

Category: Dialectical Behavior Therapy, God, marriage, relationships, therapyTags: communication in relationships, DBT, God, personal empowerment, self-validation, validation