Posted on April 7, 2018
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Today is a momentous day. I see my mother at noon today for the first time in almost ten years. At least I think it’s ten years. I have some long-time readers who will know that this is a big deal. I have many… Continue Reading “Becoming Strong”
Category: abuse in families, assertiveness, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, Mothers, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, therapy, traumaTags: assertiveness, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, emotional exploitation, resiliency, therapeutic process
Posted on February 17, 2018
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To bring you up to speed, one of the reasons I started this blog ages ago was to process having a relationship with my mother. My mother has borderline personality disorder (BPD), but she also has other co-morbid disorders. When I was growing up,… Continue Reading “Choosing the Healing Path”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, Healing, Mothers, Personality Disorders, Rage, Sadistic Personality Disorder, suffering, therapy, TruthTags: abuse in families, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, enabling abuse, healing process, sadistic personality disorder
Posted on October 20, 2016
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I was about to hit my stride when I wrote “Your Narrative Brain and Trauma Recovery”, but then Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur came around; I became contemplative and pondered the nature of healing and what keeps us trapped in the same cycles. What… Continue Reading “The Red Herring Effect”
Category: abuse in families, blame, coping strategies, Grief, Healing, Rage, therapy, traumaTags: healing from trauma, recovering from abuse, Recovery, resiliency, the validity of therapy, Truth for healing
Posted on May 8, 2016
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I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis. There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric… Continue Reading “The Borderline Blame Storm”
Category: abuse in families, blame, Borderline Personality Disorder, cluster c personality disorders, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, relationships, self-advocacyTags: abuse, accountability in relationships, blame, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, narcissistic injury, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, narcissistic supply, personality disordered parents, theory of mind deficits
Posted on September 11, 2013
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
Posted on December 23, 2011
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Where do I begin? At the beginning? I can’t even find the beginning. The beginning of this day? It was snowing. We finally got a bit of snow. It started to feel seasonal. Christmas is approaching. My girls were frolicking in the flurries. We… Continue Reading “You Shall Not Pass”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Mothers, panic attacks, Rage, UncategorizedTags: abuse, Borderline Personality Disorder, mothers, panic, snow white, suicide attempts, the queen, the witch
Posted on October 15, 2010
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I live in an interesting state. I love where I live even with the arctic winters and the almost tropical summer temperatures. I love our lakes and our seasons, and I even like the quirky regional accents. I do, however, wonder if our civil… Continue Reading “A Riff on Rage”
Out of the Mire 