Out of the Mire
…because thriving is the goal
Tag: healing from trauma
A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing
Recently, I had a conversation with someone in which they asked me about self-loathing and how to overcome it. It seems that this person lived within a polarized self-image either liking themselves at one moment or hating themselves the next; and, this split view-always… Continue Reading “A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing”
Maybe C is for Catalyst
I want to talk about how finding out what motivates you can lead to personal liberation. To do that, I will take you back to my junior year of college. I was something of a fresh-faced know-it-all with something to prove. I didn’t really… Continue Reading “Maybe C is for Catalyst”
A Timely Ending
Jack the New Therapist aka the FNG will be no longer. It has become a failed collaboration. That is what my reasonable self says. My snarky self is pointing at this: Jack has one of the worst Resting Bored Faces I’ve come across. There are… Continue Reading “A Timely Ending”
Gridlock and Core Beliefs
It’s taken me a few days to adequately internalize a more profound understanding of core beliefs. The idea of challenging them doesn’t seem like enough to me. I want to uproot them. I want them outta here! How do I get that done? When… Continue Reading “Gridlock and Core Beliefs”
Breathwork and Healing
It feels really weird, for lack of a better word, to write about trauma in such a personal way. I prefer to write about it from the bird’s eye perspective. Flying above the minefield. It feels like it’s not personal anymore. Like it happened in… Continue Reading “Breathwork and Healing”
Phoenix Rising
I did not do EMDR at my last session. My therapist was correct. My brain caught on very quickly that it was time to “open it up”, so to speak, and every unresolved trauma left came pouring forth with relentless haste. I was none… Continue Reading “Phoenix Rising”
Another Saturday Night
I was prepared to publish a completely different post, and perhaps I will. But, as I was cleaning my kitchen, another thought came to mind. Why do so many people with deep trauma never reveal it even if much of it is adaptively processed?… Continue Reading “Another Saturday Night”
An EMDR Tip
I start EMDR today. Oddly enough, I’ve had very detailed nightmares for three nights. Nightmares in Technicolor. I am not one to have nightmares. I have elaborate dreams from time to time, but this is different. These dreams are like my worst fears come… Continue Reading “An EMDR Tip”
The Event Horizon
I had coffee with a friend tonight. I think it was just supposed to be an easy “how’ve you been” sort of coffee, but that’s not what it was. How do I explain this? I have met few people in my life who experientially understand… Continue Reading “The Event Horizon”
The Red Herring Effect
I was about to hit my stride when I wrote “Your Narrative Brain and Trauma Recovery”, but then Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur came around; I became contemplative and pondered the nature of healing and what keeps us trapped in the same cycles. What… Continue Reading “The Red Herring Effect”
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