Tag: assertiveness

Becoming Strong

Today is a momentous day.  I see my mother at noon today for the first time in almost ten years.  At least I think it’s ten years. I have some long-time readers who will know that this is a big deal.  I have many…

To Blame or Not To Blame

Truth is not easy.  Telling it, avoiding it, denying it, seeing it.  Sometimes it isn’t clear.  The truth, from my perspective, might look wildly different from someone else’s perspective.  Perspectives.  I do understand this. Perspective-taking is the bedrock of empathy.  Before you can enter…

Healthy Assertiveness

Eight years ago after I had completed my epic three-year life and personality overhaul aka three years of psychotherapy, my therapist, a certified life coach in addition to being a therapist, changed his approach.  We left the therapeutic approach behind and entered into coaching, a…

Therapy Homework: Imagining Assertiveness

Therapy Tuesday.  You know that you’re really in it when you don’t want to go.  My therapist looks a little too happy to see me.  Wipe that grin of your face dammit! It’s go time, and I don’t want to go.  I, of course,…

Intermission: More Assertiveness Training

Stop the presses! Read all about it! I was assertive and didn’t like it! With whom was I assertive? A rabbi.  I was assertive with a rabbi!!! I feel stressed thinking about it, but I did it anyway.  A rabbi is no grumpy barista….

The Tipping Point

Therapy is work.  I won’t lie.  I do not like it.  I sit there for almost two hours and burn in that damnable chair.  It is necessary.  I almost wish it were lying on a chaise longue talking about my father and discussing my…

An Assertiveness Serendipity

There must be a strange connection between my need for assertiveness practice and ordering drinks.  It’s always the drinks! I just wrote a post on assertiveness yesterday and how helpful grumpy baristas can be in our assertiveness practice; and, last night it happened again–the…