Tag: borderline mothers
Posted on April 20, 2021
by MJ
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My relationship with my mother is complicated. It feels like a living thing quite separate from me. A complex, dangerous, unpredictable, delicate and yet tenacious living thing that persists. I’ve written a lot about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and my mother in this space… Continue Reading “My Borderline mother: two years later”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, compassion, encouragement, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, personal development, trauma, UncategorizedTags: 5 stages of Grief, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, Mother Wound, mothers and daughters, recovering from abuse, trauma recovery
Posted on December 2, 2018
by MJ
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The Iceman hath indeed cometh to my neighborhood. I woke up in the wee hours of the morning to the sound of snowplows clearing snow and scraping concrete. I had grand plans to “get shit done” yesterday until my car got stuck in the… Continue Reading “Stopping the Holiday Madness”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, encouragement, happiness, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, self-advocacyTags: borderline mothers, cortisol and the immune system, health and stress, holiday stress, personal development, recreating the holidays, Thanksgiving dinner
Posted on October 28, 2017
by MJ
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After almost a year of grad school perhaps one might expect to feel like this: Sometimes, however, I swear the doctors are looking at me like this ::cough::Dr. Hong::cough:: I suppose it goes with the territory. Humility and feeling completely inadequate are better traits… Continue Reading “The Significance of Being Seen”
Category: abuse in families, Healing, personal development, therapyTags: abuse in families, belonging, borderline mothers, Brene Brown, healing process, practicing vulnerability, therapy, trauma
Posted on November 4, 2016
by MJ
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If you’ve read my blog in any detail, then you know by now that I have a mother who expresses her emotions and general psychology through a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. If I were to follow Christine Lawson’s archetypes, then I would classify… Continue Reading “My Borderline Mother”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Moving Forward, trauma, TruthTags: borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, family dysfunctions during the holiday season, Recovery, telling the truth, the queen, the witch persona
Posted on May 8, 2016
by MJ
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I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis. There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric… Continue Reading “The Borderline Blame Storm”
Category: abuse in families, blame, Borderline Personality Disorder, cluster c personality disorders, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, personal development, Personality Disorders, Rage, relationships, self-advocacyTags: abuse, accountability in relationships, blame, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, narcissistic injury, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, narcissistic supply, personality disordered parents, theory of mind deficits
Posted on December 19, 2015
by MJ
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It’s the holiday season, and you know what that means. It’s Letter from My Mother time! For those of you familiar with her, I fully expect an eye roll. For those of you new to my blog, just roll your eyes. She seems to… Continue Reading “No Apologies”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Personality Disorders, TruthTags: abuse in families, apologies, bad apologies, borderline mothers, gaslighting, healing from past abuse, mental illness
Posted on March 25, 2014
by MJ
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This isn’t an equipping post or an inspirational post. It’s just me, remembering something. Most of the time I simply sweep the past behind me because most of it has been so thoroughly examined and consecrated that it no longer has a sting. But… Continue Reading “A Star Is Born”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, encouragement, forgiveness, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, Personality DisordersTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing of memories, the narrative approach
Posted on September 21, 2013
by MJ
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 16, 2013
by MJ
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If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”. Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it. Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting. I’m… Continue Reading “How To Recognize A Mindf*ck”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, Mothers, traits in victimsTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, gaslighting, the queen, the Waif, the witch
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
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