Tag: borderline mothers

Stopping the Holiday Madness

The Iceman hath indeed cometh to my neighborhood.  I woke up in the wee hours of the morning to the sound of snowplows clearing snow and scraping concrete.  I had grand plans to “get shit done” yesterday until my car got stuck in the…

The Significance of Being Seen

After almost a year of grad school perhaps one might expect to feel like this: Sometimes, however, I swear the doctors are looking at me like this ::cough::Dr. Hong::cough:: I suppose it goes with the territory.  Humility and feeling completely inadequate are better traits…

My Borderline Mother

If you’ve read my blog in any detail, then you know by now that I have a mother who expresses her emotions and general psychology through a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder.  If I were to follow Christine Lawson’s archetypes, then I would classify…

The Borderline Blame Storm

I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis.  There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric…

No Apologies

It’s the holiday season, and you know what that means.  It’s Letter from My Mother time! For those of you familiar with her, I fully expect an eye roll.  For those of you new to my blog, just roll your eyes.  She seems to…

A Star Is Born

This isn’t an equipping post or an inspirational post.  It’s just me, remembering something.  Most of the time I simply sweep the past behind me because most of it has been so thoroughly examined and consecrated that it no longer has a sting.  But…

speak.

I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked.  Marriages are in turmoil.  People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless.  I’ve been in that situation.  Or, perhaps it’s something familial….

How To Recognize A Mindf*ck

If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”.  Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it.  Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting.  I’m…

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child

As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child.  Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write.  I think, however,…

Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child

I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother.  I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this.  I read 200 pages in three hours.  I feel raw after reading it, and the only…