Category: traits in victims
Posted on April 21, 2020
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Recently, I had a conversation with someone in which they asked me about self-loathing and how to overcome it. It seems that this person lived within a polarized self-image either liking themselves at one moment or hating themselves the next; and, this split view-always… Continue Reading “A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing”
Category: abuse in families, emotional abuse, Healing, personal development, traits in victims, traumaTags: healing from trauma, healing process, Inner Critic, perfectionism, personal development, self-compassion, self-loathing, trauma
Posted on February 21, 2020
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Sometimes I write a post, and the words flow with little effort on my part. It is as if an idea is born into the ether with its own agency. Sometimes, however, I feel anxiety because I know I’m going to say something that… Continue Reading “Enabling Our Own Exploitation: An Inquiry”
Posted on September 25, 2018
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I used to write a lot about trauma and the nature of it largely because I was in the middle of dealing with it. For me, I would try to get outside of my own traumas and inspect them as if I were looking… Continue Reading “Nine Things I’ve Learned”
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, happiness, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, PTSD, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: creating happiness, developing grit, getting triggered, healing from PTSD, love after divorce, personal development, resiliency, sense of foreshortened future, therapeutic process, trauma recovery
Posted on July 14, 2018
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I have devoted a lot of space on this blog to writing about PTSD, C+PTSD, and healing from trauma. I’ve been honest about my own journey towards wholeness. What I share here is an attempt to elucidate the emotional experience behind C+PTSD in specific… Continue Reading “Generalized Anxiety vs. PTSD Anxiety”
Category: abuse in families, anxiety, Complex PTSD, domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, PTSD, traits in victims, traumaTags: anxiety related to trauma, Complex PTSD, generalized anxiety, healing from PTSD, hypervigilance, mindfulness and trauma, PTSD, trauma, trauma recovery
Posted on January 7, 2018
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Happy New Year, y’all! So far, 2018 has been eventful. Two weird things have happened. I shall begin with grad school. I just started my second year at a Traditional Chinese medical school. Only three more to go! Anyway, I have zero complaints about… Continue Reading “The New Year Begins”
Posted on December 22, 2017
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I want to talk about negative core beliefs and dissonance–and perhaps a way to challenge them effectively. Bear with me as I get there. I have written a lot about my last two years in therapy with a neuroscientist. I didn’t know initially that… Continue Reading “Pushing Back against Malignant Core Beliefs”
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, mental health, personal development, PTSD, Recovery, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: biologically based trauma, challenging core beliefs, cognitive dissonance, healing from PTSD, maladaptively processed memories, malignant core beliefs, target behaviors, therapy
Posted on November 11, 2017
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I have recently been reading a lot of material on the endocrine system and neurology. Why? Anatomy and Physiology II. Brain, brain, brain, brain. What I’ve learned, aside from more than I ever expected to know about hormones, is that distress of all kinds… Continue Reading “The Neuroscience behind Feeling Stuck”
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, traits in victims, traumaTags: catastrophizing, habenula, healing, healing from PTSD, learned helplessness, neuroscience, outlier events, Storytelling Brain, Time Perspective Therapy, trauma, What if
Posted on November 1, 2017
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I am an independent person by nature. I was an only child until my mother remarried when I was 11 years-old suddenly making me the youngest of three girls. My developing personality came to a grinding halt. I didn’t know my place in my… Continue Reading “The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors”
Category: abuse in families, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, Recovery, relationships, therapy, traits in victimsTags: asking for help, conditioning, core beliefs, extreme self-reliance, family of origin abuse, healing process, maladaptive behaviors, maladaptive coping strategies, Recovery, therapy
Posted on September 7, 2017
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When you are a parent, partner, and all-around Make It Happen person, it can feel like there is no room for “flow” or peace. When the buck stops with you, you never stop running, anticipating, planning, deciding, problem solving, observing, fixing, and repairing. That’s… Continue Reading “Big Ideas in A Little Poem”
Posted on September 3, 2017
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I don’t know about you, but I don’t like people knowing about my deeper, darker trauma history. I don’t like people knowing that I ultimately ended my marriage because of domestic violence. It goes without saying that I don’t like people knowing that I… Continue Reading “Claude and Me”
Category: Complex PTSD, Healing, human trafficking, mental health, Moving Forward, PTSD, self-advocacy, traits in victims, traumaTags: common experience, fear of alligators, healing process, human trafficking and PTSD, PTSD, Recovery, self-advocacy, torture and human trafficking