Out of the Mire
…because thriving is the goal
Category: traits in victims
A Brief Discussion of Self-Loathing
Recently, I had a conversation with someone in which they asked me about self-loathing and how to overcome it. It seems that this person lived within a polarized self-image either liking themselves at one moment or hating themselves the next; and, this split view-always…
Enabling Our Own Exploitation: An Inquiry
Sometimes I write a post, and the words flow with little effort on my part. It is as if an idea is born into the ether with its own agency. Sometimes, however, I feel anxiety because I know I’m going to say something that…
Nine Things I’ve Learned
I used to write a lot about trauma and the nature of it largely because I was in the middle of dealing with it. For me, I would try to get outside of my own traumas and inspect them as if I were looking…
The New Year Begins
Happy New Year, y’all! So far, 2018 has been eventful. Two weird things have happened. I shall begin with grad school. I just started my second year at a Traditional Chinese medical school. Only three more to go! Anyway, I have zero complaints about…
Pushing Back against Malignant Core Beliefs
I want to talk about negative core beliefs and dissonance–and perhaps a way to challenge them effectively. Bear with me as I get there. I have written a lot about my last two years in therapy with a neuroscientist. I didn’t know initially that…
The Neuroscience behind Feeling Stuck
I have recently been reading a lot of material on the endocrine system and neurology. Why? Anatomy and Physiology II. Brain, brain, brain, brain. What I’ve learned, aside from more than I ever expected to know about hormones, is that distress of all kinds…
The Prison of Maladaptive Behaviors
I am an independent person by nature. I was an only child until my mother remarried when I was 11 years-old suddenly making me the youngest of three girls. My developing personality came to a grinding halt. I didn’t know my place in my…
Big Ideas in A Little Poem
When you are a parent, partner, and all-around Make It Happen person, it can feel like there is no room for “flow” or peace. When the buck stops with you, you never stop running, anticipating, planning, deciding, problem solving, observing, fixing, and repairing. That’s…
Claude and Me
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like people knowing about my deeper, darker trauma history. I don’t like people knowing that I ultimately ended my marriage because of domestic violence. It goes without saying that I don’t like people knowing that I…
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