Tag: personal development

The Ego and You

Relationships can be very rewarding, but, truthfully, they can be difficult.  This is true for everyone regardless of any residual issues you might face in terms of family of origin, trauma, and relationship history.  This makes personal development in terms of interpersonal effectiveness, perspective-taking,… Continue Reading “The Ego and You”

A Sunday Thought

  “Sometimes where you are is not where you belong.  It’s just what you’re used to.”  

The Buffer and Rat Park

I went to therapy on Tuesday with a migraine. I have to pause for a moment and talk about migraines, pain, and trauma.  Whenever I have mentioned the nightmare known as The Migraine on any blog, well-meaning people have offered helpful comments.  I certainly want… Continue Reading “The Buffer and Rat Park”

If Not Now…

Happy New Year, everyone! Although we are only just stepping into 2017, I hope that it has been good to you so far.  2017 has started out full speed ahead.  After 19 years, I have returned to college for a graduate degree.  Am I… Continue Reading “If Not Now…”

Embrace the Process of Healing

“If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”— Hillel the Elder I’m 44 years-old, and I’ve been on the “therapy circuit” since I was 16.  As soon as… Continue Reading “Embrace the Process of Healing”

Just Do It

“Adventure will hurt you, but monotony will kill you.” I don’t know who said this, but this feels quite true.  In fact, I would change it were this my quote to this: “Adventure will no doubt hurt you, but passivity will certainly kill you.”… Continue Reading “Just Do It”

Practicing Joy

I have been writing about personal transformation referring to Alan Morinis’ book about the Mussar tradition, Every Day, Holy Day: 365 Days of Teachings and Practices from the Jewish Tradition of Mussar .  According to the Mussar tradition, we have to fuel our own… Continue Reading “Practicing Joy”

Option D

This is from Alan Morinis’ Every Day, Holy Day: MAN IS BY NATURE very “weighed down” by an earthiness and coarse materiality. That is why he does not want to exert or burden himself. But if you want to merit to divine service, you… Continue Reading “Option D”

Two Guarantees

I came across this aphorism by Hillel the Elder yesterday: “If I am not for myself, who is for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?” Ethics of the Fathers 1:14 Three powerful questions.  That’s… Continue Reading “Two Guarantees”

The Secret to Getting Better

I have been trying to figure out how to explain how I “got better” in multiple spheres of my life as I have been asked on multiple occasions.  Oh, it’s taken a long time, but I did it and continue to do it.  Trauma… Continue Reading “The Secret to Getting Better”