Category: God

Magical Thinking

I have learned something about getting on with life.  There’s no easy way to do it, and there’s no good time to do it.  What’s more, there is absolutely no pain-free way to do it either.  Hollywood has played a bigger role in our… Continue Reading “Magical Thinking”

The Three Kinds of Forgiveness

We are right in the middle of the holiday season.  Hanukkah is here.  Christmas Eve is the day after tomorrow.  Kwanzaa begins on Friday.  These are holidays that involve gathering with communities and families.  Because of that, the holiday season can be a much… Continue Reading “The Three Kinds of Forgiveness”

Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage

I have written somewhere in here that my marriage has been difficult.  If you’re married for nearly two decades, then I think, at some point, there will come hard relational times.  It’s inevitable and normal.  I am someone who doesn’t like to put up… Continue Reading “Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage”

Permission Granted

I have been on a bit of a blogging binge these past few days.  I suspect the reason is that I am housebound.  I had an arthroscopic surgical repair on my hip and must do a lot of sitting around.  I feel compelled to… Continue Reading “Permission Granted”

A Plea

Somewhere in the annals of this blog I’m sure I’ve posted on the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.  I feel quite certain that most people who know me have heard me yammer on about that, and yet a plethora of Christians and even non-Christians… Continue Reading “A Plea”

Clicker Training and Formula Faith

  What I have wanted to discuss is the idea of feeling abandoned by God.  I have certainly felt this way.  For many people of faith, when something goes wrong in their lives, the first response is, “Why? Why did God let this happen?… Continue Reading “Clicker Training and Formula Faith”

Self-Validation and Recovery of the Self

Circumstances never wait for us to be ready.  Some circumstances happen suddenly, and some, looking back, have been simmering for a long time.  It’s not a surprise when they boil over and make a mess.  Why do we then feel surprised? Is it denial?… Continue Reading “Self-Validation and Recovery of the Self”

A Blessing

I want to pause the DBT button for a moment and talk about something ontologically significant–our right to be here. Let me explain. Many people who follow this blog have experienced abuse.  Someone from war-torn Africa once commented.  Abuse doesn’t have to be overt… Continue Reading “A Blessing”

A False Perception of Self

I’m finally getting around to writing a follow-up post to Breaking The Mold.  What are our options if we have confused our personae for our authentic identity? More than that, what if we can’t tell the difference and feel trapped in some sort of… Continue Reading “A False Perception of Self”

Dealing with Dissociation

  I want to talk for a moment about dissociation.  There will come a moment in almost all our lives when we will check out.  A part of us will go away in order to cope with pain.  The human brain is very complex,… Continue Reading “Dealing with Dissociation”