Category: abuse in families

Being Jack Donaghy

I wondered what writing this post might feel like.  I wondered if I would ever arrive at this point.  Would I ever find my courage? Would the door ever open up for me? Was it possible? Would I ever feel permitted? I sat in… Continue Reading “Being Jack Donaghy”

It’s Getting Hot in Here

I wish I could bring something therapeutically beneficial to the table this morning.  What I can do is let you take a peek inside the therapeutic process of a “domestic abuse victim”.  That’s what my therapist called me yesterday.  Well, that’s very real, isn’t… Continue Reading “It’s Getting Hot in Here”

Doing The Best We Can?

There is a DBT concept or belief that says: Everyone is doing the best they can in the moment.  I remember taking the DBT course and hearing this core belief for the first time.  I bristled.  I raised my hand.  I asked for one… Continue Reading “Doing The Best We Can?”

Therapy Homework: Disgust and Vulnerability

Therapy Tuesday has come and gone.  It was my longest session yet.  Almost a full two hours.  I don’t know why he lets them go on for so long.  I drank so much water during the session that thoughts of Niagara Falls started rushing… Continue Reading “Therapy Homework: Disgust and Vulnerability”

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

This is the title of a book I just started reading by Lundy Bancroft, a well-known therapist who specializes in working with women in domestic violence and/or abusive relationships. The title didn’t thrill me.  It scared me, but the premise intrigued me.  How do… Continue Reading “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

Therapy Homework: Anger

I had Tuesday Therapy last week as usual but not this week.  This week is Spring Break, and I was with my family in a cabin in the woods on the North Shore of Lake Superior.  Duh duh duuuuuuuh…(my husband only stayed a day… Continue Reading “Therapy Homework: Anger”

Applying Meaning

I am trying to put meaning to my circumstances as they intensify, and they are intensifying.  Every day is an adventure and not a good one.  I don’t know what’s going to happen next with my husband, and each of my daughters has had… Continue Reading “Applying Meaning”

The First Step in Healing

I have been asked to write something about healing.  Personal healing.  How do we heal? I find that interesting seeing as how I’m in the middle of something of a healing crisis. I sat down a few months ago to try to write something.  Simply… Continue Reading “The First Step in Healing”

Categorizing Behaviors

I had my third therapy session yesterday.  My therapist decided to make a client-centered approach part of my treatment plan.  I bristled at that.  I’ve never progressed in a client-centered therapeutic environment.  What? Just sit there and talk about what’s bothering me? I could… Continue Reading “Categorizing Behaviors”

The Cycle of Domestic Abuse

I have found myself reading a few blogs that discuss spousal behaviors wherein a spouse engages in good behavior after being abusive.  One could try to understand and list a plethora of reasons in an attempt to explain this behavior, but I would rather… Continue Reading “The Cycle of Domestic Abuse”