Tag: self-advocacy

Developing Grit

It’s been too long since my last post.  Forgive me, faithful readers. I was not prepared for how I would feel after I reported the ongoing sexual harassment–the Sean Situation. One imagines that it would be empowering.  From experience, I can tell you that…

Claude and Me

I don’t know about you, but I don’t like people knowing about my deeper, darker trauma history.  I don’t like people knowing that I ultimately ended my marriage because of domestic violence.  It goes without saying that I don’t like people knowing that I…

Healthy Assertiveness

Eight years ago after I had completed my epic three-year life and personality overhaul aka three years of psychotherapy, my therapist, a certified life coach in addition to being a therapist, changed his approach.  We left the therapeutic approach behind and entered into coaching, a…

Intermission: More Assertiveness Training

Stop the presses! Read all about it! I was assertive and didn’t like it! With whom was I assertive? A rabbi.  I was assertive with a rabbi!!! I feel stressed thinking about it, but I did it anyway.  A rabbi is no grumpy barista….

Doing The Best We Can?

There is a DBT concept or belief that says: Everyone is doing the best they can in the moment.  I remember taking the DBT course and hearing this core belief for the first time.  I bristled.  I raised my hand.  I asked for one…

Fighting Unfair Treatment

A good friend sent me a blog post by an evangelical pastor, John Bevere, a few days ago in order to get my opinion.  What did I think about the content of his post: “Growing Through Unfair Treatment”? I vehemently disagree with him.  In…

An Assertiveness Serendipity

There must be a strange connection between my need for assertiveness practice and ordering drinks.  It’s always the drinks! I just wrote a post on assertiveness yesterday and how helpful grumpy baristas can be in our assertiveness practice; and, last night it happened again–the…