Category: divorce

Borderline Personality Disorder and Mirroring

I wrote this post, The Male Borderline Waif, a year ago, and it gets a lot of daily traffic.  For as much research that’s been accomplished over the decades around borderline personality disorder (BPD), there are still few answers to be had particularly for…

Entitlement and Domestic Abuse

I am going to record this for a very specific reason. Sometimes people give something away in the moment, and that’s the moment that things crystalize.  That’s the insight that you needed to confirm your hypothesis.  That’s when you know that you were right….

Blame and Accountability

I don’t advocate going through divorce, but, should you submit yourself to the process with your whole self, it will mature you in ways you didn’t anticipate. How? Dealing with difficult emotions on the fly while developing insight at the same time.  I’ll let…

Something Better

It has been really…something…for me to document my process of therapy and divorce on my blog.  The entire thing is out there for the world to see.  I did it, in part, for myself.  I process through writing.  I also did it so that…

Real Talk

Stress.  It doesn’t have to be a bad thing.  I keep telling myself that.  Stress is one of those buzz words in our culture that implies that something is wrong.  It’s not something that needs to be.  It is simply an outside force acting…

Asking For Help

Therapy Tuesday was a big day in my world.  It was moving day for my ex-husband.  It was official.  He was moving out.  In some ways, it has all happened so fast.  In other ways, it has not.  I have been treading water for…

First Fruits

I have written at length about the dynamics within my marriage that contributed to its dissolution.  No one gets married to get divorced.  This is, however, the right thing.  I was told three years ago by a therapist that our situation was not sustainable,…