Category: Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
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As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
Posted on September 10, 2013
by MJ
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I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother. I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this. I read 200 pages in three hours. I feel raw after reading it, and the only… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Mothers, relationships, therapy, UncategorizedTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, importance of therapy, Messiah Complex, splitting, the all-good child of the borderline mother
Posted on July 27, 2013
by MJ
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After my last post, I wanted to pause and discuss the idea of a safe person and what that means using Drs. Cloud and Townsend’s book Safe People. On their website, Cloud and Townsend ask the question: What are safe people? This is a… Continue Reading “Safe People”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Healing, Jesus, Recovery, relationships, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Drs. Cloud and Townsend, healing from past abuse, Jesus as template for safe person, safe people, safe relationships
Posted on July 23, 2013
by MJ
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I continually try to get away from the topic of borderline personality disorder on this blog, but I find that art is imitating life. I can’t get away from it in my life either. Why fight it? I’m going to try to make it… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part I”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Healing, Mothers, PTSD, RecoveryTags: abuse, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, borderline types, boundaries, Christine Lawson, mothers, PTSD, Recovery, trauma
Posted on July 12, 2013
by MJ
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I want to talk about a specific topic–gaslighting. What is gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse and/or psychological manipulation and intimidation wherein a person, the abuser, presents some kind of false information to the victim in an effort to manipulate perceptions and… Continue Reading “Gaslighting and Distortion Campaigns”
Posted on July 23, 2012
by MJ
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I’ve discussed myriad topics on this blog ranging from community, body image issues, forgiveness, faith, PTSD, and recovery. I’ve also discussed something called ‘differentiation’ although I haven’t called it that. Essentially, the work I’ve been doing to extract myself from the toxic and abusive… Continue Reading “A Conclusion”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, Complex PTSD, Faith, human trafficking, Moving Forward, PTSD, traits in victims, UncategorizedTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristics of co-dependency, co-dependency, differentiation, PTSD, separation and individuation, therapy, traits in victims
Posted on March 6, 2012
by MJ
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It’s done. After weeks of deliberation, writing, re-writing, editing, praying, procrastinating, and, yes, even fasting, I have sent my mother my final words and the book Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified. My original letter to her was thirteen pages long. Yeah, that’s too long. I,… Continue Reading “It Is Finished”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Faith, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, UncategorizedTags: at a crossroad, Borderline Personality Disorder, Cockington Gardens, cutting off a parent, Faith, healing, mothers, moving forward, Yellowstone National Park
Posted on July 15, 2011
by MJ
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It’s been one helluva week so I’m just going to “let go” for a moment. I figure I can do that since it’s my blog after all. I wish my mother would disappear over the event horizon of a black hole, hence, permanent deletion… Continue Reading “Borderlines, Sociopaths, PTSD, and Peace”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Complex PTSD, Denial, Fathers, Mothers, PTSD, UncategorizedTags: Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, Christianity, Complex PTSD, denial, mothers, neural networks, peace, PTSD, sociopathy, therapy
Posted on July 8, 2010
by MJ
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While the truth is necessary for our forward movement it also hurts. For many of us, our relationships with our mothers need the most truth and are also the source of most our pain in life particularly if there is abuse. Applying truth, boundaries, and learning to stand our ground can be especially helpful as we grieve our losses in close family relationships.
Category: 12 Steps, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, Mothers, Recovery, Sexual Abuse, TruthTags: Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, divorce, grief, mothers, self-loathing, spiritual abuse, therapy, thriving
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