Category: Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted on June 3, 2014
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There is one core dialectic nestled in the DBT assumptions: People are doing the best they can, and people need to do better, try harder, and be more motivated to change. Here is the entire list of DBT assumptions: People are doing the best… Continue Reading “DBT Assumptions”
Posted on June 2, 2014
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I’ve stated that my daughter and I started a 25-week Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills group. There are five other teens in the group with their parents so it’s not a big group. Most of the kids seem to struggle with “target” behaviors on… Continue Reading “DBT 101”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, mental health, Recovery, relationships, therapyTags: bio-social theory, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, invalidating environment, mindfulness, self-validation, validation
Posted on March 25, 2014
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This isn’t an equipping post or an inspirational post. It’s just me, remembering something. Most of the time I simply sweep the past behind me because most of it has been so thoroughly examined and consecrated that it no longer has a sting. But… Continue Reading “A Star Is Born”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, encouragement, forgiveness, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, Personality DisordersTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing of memories, the narrative approach
Posted on January 26, 2014
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I have never contacted an author for any reason. Never because I’ve liked their material. Never to complain. Never because I was fan-girling over their latest novel or having a fit over how they wrote a character out of a storyline. I am… Continue Reading “Breaking The Mold”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Faith, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Recovery, Sexual Abuse, TruthTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, God, persona vs. identity, self-actualization, self-loathing, therapy, truth
Posted on November 12, 2013
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I was at my therapist yesterday for another session. We did not do EMDR. Instead we spoke more about the protective emotions. Just like on Sesame Street, the word of the day was DISGUST. What does disgust look like in the world to me?… Continue Reading “Logical Fallacies”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, encouragement, Evangelical church, God, Healing, mental health, therapy, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, denial, God, importance of therapy, logical fallacies, sexual abuse, sexuality, truth
Posted on November 4, 2013
by MJ
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It is not my intent to offend people by writing my observations. I’m not trying to be provocative. I am, however, going to point out a dynamic that has been swirling about church culture for as long as I’ve been privy to it. It’s… Continue Reading “The Borderline Church”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Evangelical church, Faith, God, Personality Disorders, TruthTags: Borderline church, Borderline Personality Disorder, Faith, God, performance-based Christianity, spiritual abuse
Posted on October 11, 2013
by MJ
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As the title of this post might imply, I am now in possession of a workbook. I subscribe to Psychology Today, and September’s issue did a spread on Borderline Personality Disorder called “The Kings and Queens of Chaos”. The article on BPD was okay. It’s… Continue Reading “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Cluster B personality disorders, mental health, relationships, therapyTags: anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder, dialectical behavior therapy, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, mindfulness, perseveration, personal development, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook
Posted on September 30, 2013
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An aptly named post, I think, as it’s beginning to feel like a soap opera over here. I just need a guy named Dirk to move in next door, and my neighbors across the street to start throwing down outside. But, hey, we did… Continue Reading “The God Card”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Evangelical church, forgiveness, God, Healing, Jesus, MothersTags: accountability in relationships, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, boundaries, forgiveness vs. reconciliation, manipulation in relationships, performance-based Christianity, relational Christianity, spiritual abuse, the God card
Posted on September 21, 2013
by MJ
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I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”
Category: abuse in families, advocacy, Borderline Personality Disorder, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Moving Forward, PTSD, relationships, therapy, traits in victims, TruthTags: adult children of borderline parents, all-powerful perpetrator, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing process, learning to use your voice, overcoming victimization, personality disordered parents, PTSD, self-advocacy, telling the truth
Posted on September 16, 2013
by MJ
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If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”. Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it. Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting. I’m… Continue Reading “How To Recognize A Mindf*ck”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, Mothers, traits in victimsTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, gaslighting, the queen, the Waif, the witch
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