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Category: therapy
Therapy Tuesday: A Case Study in Chasing Trauma
It finally happened. Therapy finally sucked. I cried. It was hard. This is when you know that you are going to do some real work. This is why you are there. I was given homework last week. I was to reflect on why receiving… Continue Reading “Therapy Tuesday: A Case Study in Chasing Trauma”
Healthy Assertiveness
Eight years ago after I had completed my epic three-year life and personality overhaul aka three years of psychotherapy, my therapist, a certified life coach in addition to being a therapist, changed his approach. We left the therapeutic approach behind and entered into coaching, a… Continue Reading “Healthy Assertiveness”
Therapy Tuesday: It’s Not Your Fault
Last Monday, my husband asked if he could take me out to lunch. I immediately felt a mild dread bloom in my stomach. We have an awkward and unusual living situation. We have stated that we no longer want to be married. We both… Continue Reading “Therapy Tuesday: It’s Not Your Fault”
Being Jack Donaghy
I wondered what writing this post might feel like. I wondered if I would ever arrive at this point. Would I ever find my courage? Would the door ever open up for me? Was it possible? Would I ever feel permitted? I sat in… Continue Reading “Being Jack Donaghy”
It’s Getting Hot in Here
I wish I could bring something therapeutically beneficial to the table this morning. What I can do is let you take a peek inside the therapeutic process of a “domestic abuse victim”. That’s what my therapist called me yesterday. Well, that’s very real, isn’t… Continue Reading “It’s Getting Hot in Here”
Therapy Homework: Imagining Assertiveness
Therapy Tuesday. You know that you’re really in it when you don’t want to go. My therapist looks a little too happy to see me. Wipe that grin of your face dammit! It’s go time, and I don’t want to go. I, of course,… Continue Reading “Therapy Homework: Imagining Assertiveness”
The Tipping Point
Therapy is work. I won’t lie. I do not like it. I sit there for almost two hours and burn in that damnable chair. It is necessary. I almost wish it were lying on a chaise longue talking about my father and discussing my… Continue Reading “The Tipping Point”
Doing The Best We Can?
There is a DBT concept or belief that says: Everyone is doing the best they can in the moment. I remember taking the DBT course and hearing this core belief for the first time. I bristled. I raised my hand. I asked for one… Continue Reading “Doing The Best We Can?”
Therapy Homework: Disgust and Vulnerability
Therapy Tuesday has come and gone. It was my longest session yet. Almost a full two hours. I don’t know why he lets them go on for so long. I drank so much water during the session that thoughts of Niagara Falls started rushing… Continue Reading “Therapy Homework: Disgust and Vulnerability”
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
This is the title of a book I just started reading by Lundy Bancroft, a well-known therapist who specializes in working with women in domestic violence and/or abusive relationships. The title didn’t thrill me. It scared me, but the premise intrigued me. How do… Continue Reading “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”
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