Category: anxiety

Retraining the Anxious Brain

I want to discuss what some people think is rather quotidian but is anything but–anxiety.  To do that, I am going to describe what it’s like living alone after almost twenty years of being married. It’s harder than I expected but not for the reasons I… Continue Reading “Retraining the Anxious Brain”

The Tipping Point

Therapy is work.  I won’t lie.  I do not like it.  I sit there for almost two hours and burn in that damnable chair.  It is necessary.  I almost wish it were lying on a chaise longue talking about my father and discussing my… Continue Reading “The Tipping Point”

Cognitive Empathy

A friend commented on my prolific blog writing lately.  I write more when I’m processing something.  I have another blog.  Were I dealing with an exacerbation in symptoms in one of my daughters I would be posting there.  Some of the content here could… Continue Reading “Cognitive Empathy”

The Four Elements of Asshole Behavior

I saw my therapist for the second time yesterday, and we went over the four basic concepts that explain a person’s behavior: skills deficit emotions thoughts and beliefs contingency In the context of my marriage, I am attempting to lay down a history which is,… Continue Reading “The Four Elements of Asshole Behavior”

The Burden of WHY

I feel compelled to write this out, but I want to write it carefully.  I don’t want to trigger anyone.  I don’t often write explicitly about my past sexual abuse largely because I identify less and less with it.  I have aggressively and relentlessly… Continue Reading “The Burden of WHY”

Anxiety, DBT, and The Dialectic

I have four daughters, and, for whatever reason, they are all susceptible to anxiety.  Studies have shown that people born with a smaller hippocampus in comparison to others tend to struggle with anxiety and a propensity to develop PTSD after trauma.  My husband has… Continue Reading “Anxiety, DBT, and The Dialectic”

Learning to Deal

In my last post, I talked about learning to make plans for yourself in the context of possessing a sense of a foreshortened future.  This can feel almost impossible if one has poor distress tolerance.  Distress tolerance is very important when it comes to… Continue Reading “Learning to Deal”

Looking Ahead

I don’t know to whom I need to attribute this image.  It’s one of those images that gets passed around Facebook and Pinterest, and everyone LIKES it.  It feels inspirational.  It seems like something one might hear at a political rally or in a… Continue Reading “Looking Ahead”

A False Perception of Self

I’m finally getting around to writing a follow-up post to Breaking The Mold.  What are our options if we have confused our personae for our authentic identity? More than that, what if we can’t tell the difference and feel trapped in some sort of… Continue Reading “A False Perception of Self”

The Box

Well, I decided to practice self-care so I met with a therapist.  I am inwardly groaning as I write this out because therapy almost feels like a career for me.  I should have an honorary PhD in going to therapy.  It has taken a… Continue Reading “The Box”