Category: personal development

Atonement and Forgiveness: Another Perspective

The Jewish New Year is fast approaching.  In the Jewish calendar, the month before Rosh Hashanah is called Elul.  In Jewish thought and tradition, the month of Elul is considered to be a time when God is “in the field”.  He is to be… Continue Reading “Atonement and Forgiveness: Another Perspective”

Understand Your Brain, Understand Yourself

To begin to get a solid grasp of where I’m headed in terms of changing your narrative and healing yourself in experiential ways so that you can change your trajectory in tangible ways, I highly recommend that you watch this documentary on the brain–“Automatic… Continue Reading “Understand Your Brain, Understand Yourself”

Your Narrative Brain and Trauma Recovery

I’ve been thinking about the idea of catastrophizing and feeling suspicious.  Both of these fall under the larger heading of hypervigilance.  Bear with me as I explain this because it’s very important. What is hypervigilance? It’s “an enhanced state of sensory sensitivity accompanied by… Continue Reading “Your Narrative Brain and Trauma Recovery”

The Persona Paradigm

I’ve been editing old posts.  It’s been a much bigger process than I expected what with over 200 posts and six years worth of material.  I came across this post written in 2014, and it dovetailed so nicely with my latest post.   Why… Continue Reading “The Persona Paradigm”

Preparing to Transform

I have been attending therapy faithfully.  I look forward to the day when I don’t require it any longer.  At the same time, I encourage people to go.  For some people, therapy is like an engine overhaul.  For others, it’s like going in for… Continue Reading “Preparing to Transform”

Practicing Joy

I have been writing about personal transformation referring to Alan Morinis’ book about the Mussar tradition, Every Day, Holy Day: 365 Days of Teachings and Practices from the Jewish Tradition of Mussar .  According to the Mussar tradition, we have to fuel our own… Continue Reading “Practicing Joy”

Option D

This is from Alan Morinis’ Every Day, Holy Day: MAN IS BY NATURE very “weighed down” by an earthiness and coarse materiality. That is why he does not want to exert or burden himself. But if you want to merit to divine service, you… Continue Reading “Option D”

Two Guarantees

I came across this aphorism by Hillel the Elder yesterday: “If I am not for myself, who is for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?” Ethics of the Fathers 1:14 Three powerful questions.  That’s… Continue Reading “Two Guarantees”

Alexithymia and Attachment Style

A reader emailed me this morning with some very good information she’d found.  I’m going to share it (with her permission).  Two years ago, I wrote a post on alexithymia and marriage (Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage), and I never thought about… Continue Reading “Alexithymia and Attachment Style”

The High Maintenance Woman and Self-Care

A few weeks ago while I was browsing through Facebook, I came upon one of those ubiquitous quizzes.  This particular quiz was entitled “How High Maintenance are You?” and the women who had completed it were more than happy to post and comment on their… Continue Reading “The High Maintenance Woman and Self-Care”