Category: personal development

The Borderline Blame Storm

I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis.  There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric… Continue Reading “The Borderline Blame Storm”

What Matzo Can Teach Us

We are in the middle of celebrating Passover.  That means lots of matzo.  If you’ve ever eaten matzo, then you’ll notice that it gets on everything.  I have crumbs everywhere.  It is the perfect food for fairy tales and getting lost in the woods.… Continue Reading “What Matzo Can Teach Us”

Blame and Accountability

I don’t advocate going through divorce, but, should you submit yourself to the process with your whole self, it will mature you in ways you didn’t anticipate. How? Dealing with difficult emotions on the fly while developing insight at the same time.  I’ll let… Continue Reading “Blame and Accountability”

Empathy vs. Sympathy

I’ve written about Brené Brown before.  Her PhD and research are focused on shame.  In one of her books, she identified herself as a ‘shame researcher’.  I find this fascinating.  Shame is part of the human experience as is its cousin, humiliation, and its brother, guilt.… Continue Reading “Empathy vs. Sympathy”

Name It to Regulate It

There are times when I have heard something so profound that I was grateful I lived to reach that moment.  Suddenly, my life made more sense, or my understanding of what I will be able to accomplish opened up.  I had one of those… Continue Reading “Name It to Regulate It”

The Secret to Getting Better

I have been trying to figure out how to explain how I “got better” in multiple spheres of my life as I have been asked on multiple occasions.  Oh, it’s taken a long time, but I did it and continue to do it.  Trauma… Continue Reading “The Secret to Getting Better”

Something Practical

Yes, yes, I can be practical.  Recall that I wrote in The Reboot of feeling aimless and desirous of doing nothing.  Well, this does not fit my personality.  I tend to be much more machine-like in disposition.  Sometimes even bordering on hypomanic.  I make… Continue Reading “Something Practical”

Overcoming a Sense of a Foreshortened Future

I have been thinking about this idea of The Reboot, which I wrote about in my previous post.  Clearly, I’m not entirely empty in my old noggin.  I had an actual thought and pondered it, too! Have I ever felt like this before in… Continue Reading “Overcoming a Sense of a Foreshortened Future”

Can You Nullify A Person?

My therapist is wise.  I appreciate him.  Sometimes we chip away at our therapeutic process for months, even years, and we get good results although we’d like to move faster.  And, then, our therapist says one thing that busts everything wide open.  It isn’t… Continue Reading “Can You Nullify A Person?”

Opening The Vaults

I am still in therapy.  It’s no longer something I remotely enjoy not that I ever enjoyed sitting in the Hot Seat before.  Now, however, it’s work, and I can feel it.  I can feel myself becoming defensive when my therapist asks a question… Continue Reading “Opening The Vaults”