Out of the Mire
…because thriving is the goal
Category: Truth
Breaking The Mold
I have never contacted an author for any reason. Never because I’ve liked their material. Never to complain. Never because I was fan-girling over their latest novel or having a fit over how they wrote a character out of a storyline. I am… Continue Reading “Breaking The Mold”
Being Your Authentic Self
I had a really weird social interaction yesterday. I didn’t think I was going to write about it, but here I am, sitting in my bed in my pajamas under the down comforter, exhausted from the day, and my mind feels restless and preoccupied.… Continue Reading “Being Your Authentic Self”
Logical Fallacies
I was at my therapist yesterday for another session. We did not do EMDR. Instead we spoke more about the protective emotions. Just like on Sesame Street, the word of the day was DISGUST. What does disgust look like in the world to me?… Continue Reading “Logical Fallacies”
The Borderline Church
It is not my intent to offend people by writing my observations. I’m not trying to be provocative. I am, however, going to point out a dynamic that has been swirling about church culture for as long as I’ve been privy to it. It’s… Continue Reading “The Borderline Church”
speak.
I wanted to say something about speaking the truth. I have often found myself in conversations with people discussing personal circumstances that are gridlocked. Marriages are in turmoil. People feel unheard, invisible, and helpless. I’ve been in that situation. Or, perhaps it’s something familial.… Continue Reading “speak.”
What Does Love Look Like?
I had a discussion last night with a friend wherein she recounted a discussion she had with someone in her church. Her conversation was almost identical to myriad conversations I’ve had with well-meaning Christians throughout the years of my journey. One such conversation went… Continue Reading “What Does Love Look Like?”
Veins of Gold
We work so hard in our recovery in order to establish boundaries of safety, predictability, and truth, and then someone comes along to challenge us and our healing process. Are we okay? Are we sure that we did “that” work? What do we do now?
The “You Historical Society”
Our lives can be viewed metaphorically as a landscape populated by a thriving city or by ruins. For better or worse, it is up to us to make do with what remains be it clearing away dumped rubbish, repairing old but sound structures, tearing down ruined buildings, or rebuilding boundaries. It is a worthy and necessary endeavor made more meaningful when done in a loving community committed to our success.
Truth Hurts
While the truth is necessary for our forward movement it also hurts. For many of us, our relationships with our mothers need the most truth and are also the source of most our pain in life particularly if there is abuse. Applying truth, boundaries, and learning to stand our ground can be especially helpful as we grieve our losses in close family relationships.
Default Options
Many of our responses to our life experiences and relationships can be described as automatic or knee jerk, but it is possible to change our responses when we are able to discern and internalize alternatives.
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