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Posted on July 3, 2020
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I wrote a post entitled AFFECTIVE DEPRIVATION DISORDER AND ALEXITHYMIA IN MARRIAGE in 2014. I wrote it from a place of profound emotional and psychic pain, but there was also a thread of hope woven into that post because I thought I had found an… Continue Reading “Epilogue: Nine And A Half Years Later”
Category: domestic abuse, emotional abuse, Healing, long-term relationships, personal development, relationships, Uncategorized, Women's IssuesTags: Affective Deprivation Disorder, alexithymia, domestic abuse, emotional exploitation, healing after divorce, reciprocity in relationships
Posted on January 6, 2020
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Happy New Year, everyone! As an exercise in developing intention for the new year ahead, I looked back over the past year. In the spirit of looking back, I browsed at the beginning of this blog and saw that my first post was in… Continue Reading “Necessary Unraveling to Transformation”
Category: encouragement, Healing, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, traumaTags: blogging and healing, healing after divorce, healing process, narrative approach, personal transformation, Recovery, trauma and meaning, trauma recovery
Posted on March 6, 2019
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I think I’ve tried to write a blog post six or seven times in six or seven weeks and failed each time. If you knew my writing process, then you would know that is not me. I have never had a problem writing anything. … Continue Reading “Resiliency and Vulnerability”
Category: domestic abuse, domestic violence, encouragement, human trafficking, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, self-advocacy, trauma, Women's IssuesTags: domestic abuse, healing process, personal development, practicing vulnerability, resiliency, Resiliency Spectrum, trauma
Posted on October 27, 2018
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I am seldom on Facebook, but, as I was up bright and early this morning, I indulged my urge and took a peek. This is what I found: My knee-jerk reaction was, “What the fu…” Was I more shocked by the original “prayer” or… Continue Reading “Becoming an Agent of Goodness”
Posted on April 1, 2018
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We celebrated Passover last night with the customary Seder–the ceremonial dinner for the first night or first two nights of Passover. My house is usually the gathering place. It is a big job. Traditionally, the preparation that goes into preparing one’s home, kitchen, dishes,… Continue Reading “Annual Rituals”
Category: encouragement, God, Healing, Judaism, Moving Forward, Passover, personal development, UncategorizedTags: creating the life you want, healing contemplation, moving forward, overcoming inertia, Passover, religion
Posted on February 3, 2018
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I’m supposed to be doing homework, but it’s cold and snowy. I am entirely unmotivated to study the alimentary canal. A thought occurred to me when I was stuck in traffic a few days ago. I’ll start with a question. How many times have… Continue Reading “A Healing Hypothesis”
Posted on December 22, 2017
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I want to talk about negative core beliefs and dissonance–and perhaps a way to challenge them effectively. Bear with me as I get there. I have written a lot about my last two years in therapy with a neuroscientist. I didn’t know initially that… Continue Reading “Pushing Back against Malignant Core Beliefs”
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, mental health, personal development, PTSD, Recovery, therapy, traits in victims, traumaTags: biologically based trauma, challenging core beliefs, cognitive dissonance, healing from PTSD, maladaptively processed memories, malignant core beliefs, target behaviors, therapy
Posted on December 11, 2017
by MJ
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A new grocery store opened just a few miles from my house, and, let me tell you, it feels like God designed this store just for me. It has a huge produce section. HUGE. I felt rather like this when I stood in the… Continue Reading “Beware the Sugar Train”
Posted on November 15, 2017
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I had an interesting therapy experience yesterday. Jack is a very different therapist from my previous therapist. The gap is growing wider forming a gulf that is coming to represent their differences, and I’m missing my former therapist more and more. Alas, change is… Continue Reading “That Which Does Make You Stronger”
Category: encouragement, Healing, love, mental health, Moving Forward, Recovery, sex, sexless marriage, Sexual Abuse, therapy, traumaTags: life after divorce, relationships after divorce, sex after divorce, sexless marriage, sexual recovery after trauma, sexuality, therapy, trauma, Trust after Trauma
Posted on November 11, 2017
by MJ
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I have recently been reading a lot of material on the endocrine system and neurology. Why? Anatomy and Physiology II. Brain, brain, brain, brain. What I’ve learned, aside from more than I ever expected to know about hormones, is that distress of all kinds… Continue Reading “The Neuroscience behind Feeling Stuck”
Category: Complex PTSD, coping strategies, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, personal development, Recovery, traits in victims, traumaTags: catastrophizing, habenula, healing, healing from PTSD, learned helplessness, neuroscience, outlier events, Storytelling Brain, Time Perspective Therapy, trauma, What if