Category: emotional abuse
Posted on July 21, 2014
by MJ
6 Comments
I want to pause the DBT button for a moment and talk about something ontologically significant–our right to be here. Let me explain. Many people who follow this blog have experienced abuse. Someone from war-torn Africa once commented. Abuse doesn’t have to be overt… Continue Reading “A Blessing”
Category: abuse in families, Christianity, emotional abuse, encouragement, Faith, GodTags: Abraham and Sarah and Ishmael, abuse, Blessing Your Soul, blessings, Christianity, encouragement, God, healing process, ontological rights, ontological significance, triggers
Posted on March 25, 2014
by MJ
6 Comments
This isn’t an equipping post or an inspirational post. It’s just me, remembering something. Most of the time I simply sweep the past behind me because most of it has been so thoroughly examined and consecrated that it no longer has a sting. But… Continue Reading “A Star Is Born”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, encouragement, forgiveness, Healing, Mothers, Moving Forward, Personality DisordersTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, healing of memories, the narrative approach
Posted on February 11, 2014
by MJ
Leave a Comment
I’m finally getting around to writing a follow-up post to Breaking The Mold. What are our options if we have confused our personae for our authentic identity? More than that, what if we can’t tell the difference and feel trapped in some sort of… Continue Reading “A False Perception of Self”
Category: abuse in families, anxiety, emotional abuse, God, Healing, mental health, Moving Forward, Recovery, relationshipsTags: dysfunctional relationships, low self-esteem, persona vs. identity, safe people, safe relationships, self-esteem
Posted on February 6, 2014
by MJ
5 Comments
I want to talk for a moment about dissociation. There will come a moment in almost all our lives when we will check out. A part of us will go away in order to cope with pain. The human brain is very complex,… Continue Reading “Dealing with Dissociation”
Category: abuse in families, Christianity, emotional abuse, God, Healing, mental health, Recovery, Sexual Abuse, therapyTags: abuse, dissociation, Donny Lee Silk, El Roi, Faith, God, healing process, sexual abuse, therapy, trauma
Posted on January 26, 2014
by MJ
4 Comments
I have never contacted an author for any reason. Never because I’ve liked their material. Never to complain. Never because I was fan-girling over their latest novel or having a fit over how they wrote a character out of a storyline. I am… Continue Reading “Breaking The Mold”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Faith, Healing, mental health, Mothers, Recovery, Sexual Abuse, TruthTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, God, persona vs. identity, self-actualization, self-loathing, therapy, truth
Posted on September 16, 2013
by MJ
14 Comments
If it weren’t in such bad taste, I would post my mother’s latest letter and use it as an object lesson in “How To Recognize A Mindfuck”. Excuse my language, but there’s no other way to put it. Her entire letter was an exercise in gaslighting. I’m… Continue Reading “How To Recognize A Mindf*ck”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, Denial, emotional abuse, Healing, mental health, Mothers, traits in victimsTags: abuse, adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, gaslighting, the queen, the Waif, the witch
Posted on September 11, 2013
by MJ
10 Comments
As promised, here is the other side of the coin regarding “Make-Believe Children”–the no-good child. Yesterday, I wrote a rather lengthy post describing the all-good child, and I found it to be a rather educational and somewhat emotional post to write. I think, however,… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part III: The No-Good Child”
Category: abuse in families, Borderline Personality Disorder, co-dependency, emotional abuse, mental health, Mothers, Rage, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, characteristic of no-good children, folie a deux, messages to no-good children, no-good child of borderline mothers
Posted on September 10, 2013
by MJ
11 Comments
I finally decided to stop fooling around and powered through Christine Lawson’s book Understanding The Borderline Mother. I have some odd ability to quickly absorb books like this. I read 200 pages in three hours. I feel raw after reading it, and the only… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part II: The All-Good Child”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Mothers, relationships, therapy, UncategorizedTags: adult children of borderline parents, borderline mothers, Borderline Personality Disorder, importance of therapy, Messiah Complex, splitting, the all-good child of the borderline mother
Posted on July 27, 2013
by MJ
5 Comments
After my last post, I wanted to pause and discuss the idea of a safe person and what that means using Drs. Cloud and Townsend’s book Safe People. On their website, Cloud and Townsend ask the question: What are safe people? This is a… Continue Reading “Safe People”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, emotional abuse, Healing, Jesus, Recovery, relationships, therapyTags: adult children of borderline parents, Borderline Personality Disorder, Christianity, Drs. Cloud and Townsend, healing from past abuse, Jesus as template for safe person, safe people, safe relationships
Posted on July 23, 2013
by MJ
17 Comments
I continually try to get away from the topic of borderline personality disorder on this blog, but I find that art is imitating life. I can’t get away from it in my life either. Why fight it? I’m going to try to make it… Continue Reading “Understanding The Borderline Mother, Part I”
Category: Borderline Personality Disorder, emotional abuse, Healing, Mothers, PTSD, RecoveryTags: abuse, borderline mother, Borderline Personality Disorder, borderline types, boundaries, Christine Lawson, mothers, PTSD, Recovery, trauma
Out of the Mire 