Category: Moving Forward

Claude and Me

I don’t know about you, but I don’t like people knowing about my deeper, darker trauma history.  I don’t like people knowing that I ultimately ended my marriage because of domestic violence.  It goes without saying that I don’t like people knowing that I… Continue Reading “Claude and Me”

The Betrayal of Disengagement: Reloaded

I wrote this post for another blog a little over a year ago, but I want to post it here, too, because I continue to get comments on this post–Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage.  Out of hundreds of posts, that post is… Continue Reading “The Betrayal of Disengagement: Reloaded”

Between Blame and Uncertainty

I learned something new this week.  Well, I should say that I relearned something old, and it resonated as if it were new.  It’s worth sharing. There is a phenomenon that almost everyone seems to experience, at some point, after surviving something bad that… Continue Reading “Between Blame and Uncertainty”

Einstein on Changing Your Life

I read an article in the New York Times this morning entitled: Want to Be Creative on Purpose? Schedule It Right off the bat I can tell you that it’s a quick and dirty read and probably true.  Written by Carl Richards aka Sketch… Continue Reading “Einstein on Changing Your Life”

The Buffer and Rat Park

I went to therapy on Tuesday with a migraine. I have to pause for a moment and talk about migraines, pain, and trauma.  Whenever I have mentioned the nightmare known as The Migraine on any blog, well-meaning people have offered helpful comments.  I certainly want… Continue Reading “The Buffer and Rat Park”

If Not Now…

Happy New Year, everyone! Although we are only just stepping into 2017, I hope that it has been good to you so far.  2017 has started out full speed ahead.  After 19 years, I have returned to college for a graduate degree.  Am I… Continue Reading “If Not Now…”

Embrace the Process of Healing

“If I am not for myself, who is for me? And when I am for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?”— Hillel the Elder I’m 44 years-old, and I’ve been on the “therapy circuit” since I was 16.  As soon as… Continue Reading “Embrace the Process of Healing”

The Power of What If

This idea came to mind yesterday as I was beginning to dread my next EMDR session.  EMDR itself is fine.  It’s the time in between sessions that I truly dislike.  My brain has gone into hyperdrive, and traumatic memory after traumatic memory is pouring… Continue Reading “The Power of What If”

Just Do It

“Adventure will hurt you, but monotony will kill you.” I don’t know who said this, but this feels quite true.  In fact, I would change it were this my quote to this: “Adventure will no doubt hurt you, but passivity will certainly kill you.”… Continue Reading “Just Do It”

My Borderline Mother

If you’ve read my blog in any detail, then you know by now that I have a mother who expresses her emotions and general psychology through a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder.  If I were to follow Christine Lawson’s archetypes, then I would classify… Continue Reading “My Borderline Mother”