Category: Moving Forward

The Persona Paradigm

I’ve been editing old posts.  It’s been a much bigger process than I expected what with over 200 posts and six years worth of material.  I came across this post written in 2014, and it dovetailed so nicely with my latest post.   Why… Continue Reading “The Persona Paradigm”

Preparing to Transform

I have been attending therapy faithfully.  I look forward to the day when I don’t require it any longer.  At the same time, I encourage people to go.  For some people, therapy is like an engine overhaul.  For others, it’s like going in for… Continue Reading “Preparing to Transform”

Two Guarantees

I came across this aphorism by Hillel the Elder yesterday: “If I am not for myself, who is for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?” Ethics of the Fathers 1:14 Three powerful questions.  That’s… Continue Reading “Two Guarantees”

Empathy vs. Sympathy

I’ve written about Brené Brown before.  Her PhD and research are focused on shame.  In one of her books, she identified herself as a ‘shame researcher’.  I find this fascinating.  Shame is part of the human experience as is its cousin, humiliation, and its brother, guilt.… Continue Reading “Empathy vs. Sympathy”

Name It to Regulate It

There are times when I have heard something so profound that I was grateful I lived to reach that moment.  Suddenly, my life made more sense, or my understanding of what I will be able to accomplish opened up.  I had one of those… Continue Reading “Name It to Regulate It”

The Secret to Getting Better

I have been trying to figure out how to explain how I “got better” in multiple spheres of my life as I have been asked on multiple occasions.  Oh, it’s taken a long time, but I did it and continue to do it.  Trauma… Continue Reading “The Secret to Getting Better”

Something Practical

Yes, yes, I can be practical.  Recall that I wrote in The Reboot of feeling aimless and desirous of doing nothing.  Well, this does not fit my personality.  I tend to be much more machine-like in disposition.  Sometimes even bordering on hypomanic.  I make… Continue Reading “Something Practical”

Can You Nullify A Person?

My therapist is wise.  I appreciate him.  Sometimes we chip away at our therapeutic process for months, even years, and we get good results although we’d like to move faster.  And, then, our therapist says one thing that busts everything wide open.  It isn’t… Continue Reading “Can You Nullify A Person?”

Opening The Vaults

I am still in therapy.  It’s no longer something I remotely enjoy not that I ever enjoyed sitting in the Hot Seat before.  Now, however, it’s work, and I can feel it.  I can feel myself becoming defensive when my therapist asks a question… Continue Reading “Opening The Vaults”

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

This is the title of a book I just started reading by Lundy Bancroft, a well-known therapist who specializes in working with women in domestic violence and/or abusive relationships. The title didn’t thrill me.  It scared me, but the premise intrigued me.  How do… Continue Reading “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”