Category: relationships

Alexithymia and Attachment Style

A reader emailed me this morning with some very good information she’d found.  I’m going to share it (with her permission).  Two years ago, I wrote a post on alexithymia and marriage (Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage), and I never thought about… Continue Reading “Alexithymia and Attachment Style”

The Borderline Blame Storm

I was asked recently to write more about being in relationship with someone who expresses as having a personality disorder. Firstly, I want to be careful because I don’t want to vilify people who carry this diagnosis.  There is a lot of inflammatory rhetoric… Continue Reading “The Borderline Blame Storm”

Can You Nullify A Person?

My therapist is wise.  I appreciate him.  Sometimes we chip away at our therapeutic process for months, even years, and we get good results although we’d like to move faster.  And, then, our therapist says one thing that busts everything wide open.  It isn’t… Continue Reading “Can You Nullify A Person?”

The Male Borderline Waif

I’ve written a lot on borderline personality disorder (BPD) on this blog largely because my mother has the disorder.  It is not something I wish to vilify, and I don’t want to verbally mistreat people who have been diagnosed with it either.  Of all… Continue Reading “The Male Borderline Waif”

Therapy Tuesday: Rewriting History

Tuesday’s therapy session was excellent.  In fact, it was so good that it is worth sharing.  I have been trying to document the therapeutic process in an effort to depict how the process works so that those who are afraid of entering in will… Continue Reading “Therapy Tuesday: Rewriting History”

Alexithymia and the Secret Schizoid

I want to switch gears for a moment.  Some time ago I wrote this post–Affective Deprivation Disorder and Alexithymia in Marriage.  According to my stats, this is the most widely viewed post on my blog.  That is telling.  I had never heard of alexithymia… Continue Reading “Alexithymia and the Secret Schizoid”

Doing The Best We Can?

There is a DBT concept or belief that says: Everyone is doing the best they can in the moment.  I remember taking the DBT course and hearing this core belief for the first time.  I bristled.  I raised my hand.  I asked for one… Continue Reading “Doing The Best We Can?”

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

This is the title of a book I just started reading by Lundy Bancroft, a well-known therapist who specializes in working with women in domestic violence and/or abusive relationships. The title didn’t thrill me.  It scared me, but the premise intrigued me.  How do… Continue Reading “Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

Therapy Homework: Anger

I had Tuesday Therapy last week as usual but not this week.  This week is Spring Break, and I was with my family in a cabin in the woods on the North Shore of Lake Superior.  Duh duh duuuuuuuh…(my husband only stayed a day… Continue Reading “Therapy Homework: Anger”

Cognitive Empathy

A friend commented on my prolific blog writing lately.  I write more when I’m processing something.  I have another blog.  Were I dealing with an exacerbation in symptoms in one of my daughters I would be posting there.  Some of the content here could… Continue Reading “Cognitive Empathy”